What Happens to Unborn Baby Spirits?

unborn baby spirits

I did a mediumship reading today with a new client. She wanted to connect with the spirit of her unborn baby. Unfortunately, this child never had the opportunity to be born. Where do the spirits of the unborn go? And is there a reason why they didn’t incarnate? What happens to unborn baby spirits?

When my client was talking to me on the phone to book her appointment, I got the sense that this was a male child. The morning of the appointment, I got a couple of names coming through. I kept this in mind for our phone session.

Although she never knew the gender of her baby, this client had a strong feeling that it was male. And the names that I picked up on began with the same sound as the name she had chosen. Sometimes I get the beginning sounds of names, but sometimes I get the actual name itself. It depends on a few things – the energy of the spirit, if we are able to match vibrations well to communicate, and the openness of my client. I’m happy to provide some peace to parents wondering what happens to unborn baby spirits.

This child in spirit had no sadness, no guilt or anger. What came through was a gentle love. He first showed himself as a blue energy hovering around my client. Then he showed himself as a baby and a young man – what he would have looked like had he been born and grown up.

When a child does not complete the incarnation process – whether by choice of the mother or by other complications – the spirit of the child returns to the other side. Sometimes that spirit still visits us. Sometimes there will be another opportunity for this child to be born at a later time.

Just as we humans experience things in order to help us grow and transform, spirit also has its own agenda of experience for growth and transformation. Learning does not stop just because we transition to the other side.

There is a divine plan in place. From our human perspective, it is hard to understand why certain things happen. From a spirit perspective, all things are perfect.

There is a reason why this child was not born. Perhaps he wanted to experience the beginning of the process but was not meant to complete it. Perhaps it was for his mother’s benefit for her growth.

Either way, they will always be connected. They are part of the same soul group. They have incarnated together many, many times before. And, while she can learn to connect with him while she is alive, he will be there to greet her on the other side when she passes.

The separation is only an illusion although it may feel real as we are in this dense reality of human form. Love is the energy that connects us. It doesn’t matter if we are both in form, both in spirit, or one in form and one in spirit. The connection of love can never be broken.

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Selina Khan, Toronto Psychic Medium and Reiki Master
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  • John Campbell June 11, 2013, 6:15 am

    A few years ago me and my current fiance got pregnant. After much tribulation she decided to abort it. I think it is due to the fact that neither of us had very supportive families and we didnt feel like we could or should be able to take care of the baby. Also (speaking for myself) I didnt beleive in god or even spirits and didnt realize the huge difference it would make for that spirit. I thought we go to blackness anyway so Ididnt think it mattered…the ignorance of the world is tragic…. With that said I was positive and said id be there to support her either way.
    Anyway , a while later ( at this point i didnt believe in god or heaven but i believed in spirits and psychics and auras..) and I got to meet my baby.. he looked just like my fiance(sarah) except he was a baby boy… black hair beautiful smile and dimples and cheeks and his eyes looked at me with so much love and sincerity. and I went to chase him and tickle him then the dream ended…. since then i found the words of jesus and my views are based on that also.
    Earlier today i was crying for remorse over my lack of fighting for the baby wondering what his fate is( I know jesus cleans the sin of the babies so i know hes safe from hell, Thank God) but i still wondered as to his possible whereabouts and I hoped and prayed that if he could.. he would comeback as our child. but if its better for him not to.. than im ok with that.. Anyway I just wanted to share my story and to let you know that your article has really made me feel better. Thank you so much and may god bless you forever.
    If you feel like making a response I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you so much

  • admin June 13, 2013, 12:10 am

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. It must have been very difficult for both of you and I am glad that you have found meaning in your experiences that has led you to deepen your spirituality. There is no need for remorse – just know if the child is meant to return to you, he will and if not, that is also okay too. Trust in Divine purpose and love. Many blessings, Selina

  • Betty June 29, 2013, 12:46 am

    Wats does it mean wen sumone say u have the spirit of an unborn child on u.

  • kefilwe March 11, 2014, 11:25 pm

    I terminated pregnancy in 2010,I’m struggling to go by with life in General. Please kindly assist in this regard

  • admin March 12, 2014, 3:45 am

    I am sorry to hear that you are struggling right now. I would suggest that you seek a therapist if you haven’t already done so. As for the spiritual side, there is no judgement about this. God is only love. God knows everything, including that this pregnancy would not be fulfilled. It’s okay to forgive yourself, know that everything is okay and it’s okay to keep going and find joy in life again.

    I wish you the best.

  • Tina April 2, 2014, 9:37 am

    A year ago this month I had a termination. Someone above said they saw their baby in a dream, I saw mine too. He looked just like me and my partner. There’s not a day that goes by I don’t think about him. I did an angel card reading which has made me feel better, each time I do it I’m sure he comes through as the same cards come up that mean something to me. I wish he would appear in my dreams again.
    If you find the time please could you kindly respond to this!

    I am glad I found this article

    Tina x

  • Molly Freya Harrison July 10, 2014, 10:53 pm


    Me and my long term partner lost our baby at 4-6 weeks which hit us hard after trying for a baby for two years and having lost one before.

    On Tuesday I had a friend round and she took a picture of her self and in the background you can see what looks like a baby in the womb, could this be our baby or a different sign?

    Any help or thoughts much appreciated.

  • admin July 11, 2014, 2:54 am

    Hi Molly,

    What a loss to you – I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your partner. I know these things happen for reasons that we don’t understand. In the larger sense there is divine reason for everything that happens, but on a human level it can be hard to comprehend.

    Can you please send me the photo? I would like to see it before I comment. I’ll have a better sense if I can look at the energy. By the way, there are no coincidences. You may want to see the comment by Nirelle and my response to her. Her comment came in on the same day as you sent yours.


  • Leslie August 5, 2014, 4:51 am


    My husband and I lost our first child at 13 weeks, this was such a horrible experience for us. And I always wonder what happens to my babies soul. I guess I am looking for closure 🙁

  • Sue Tan Toyofuku August 5, 2014, 1:32 pm

    Hi Selina,
    I just discovered today that firstly I was carrying twin babies (up til now at 17 weeks I had not known this) and sadly that they had passed in my stomach 2-3 weeks ago. I’ve been searching for thoughts about how to accept this type of loss… Your words and description of what you saw with this particular client have been comforting. I would like to believe the same spiritual truth for my unborn babies. Thank you. – Sue

  • Selina August 6, 2014, 11:16 pm

    Hi Sue Tan,

    I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through. Time really does heal all wounds and eventually we find ways to peace. I am glad that you found some comfort through this blog. Many blessings to you.


  • Selina August 6, 2014, 11:21 pm

    Hi Leslie,

    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Every single life form is precious and each one is always in unconditional love from God. There are reasons for everything and most things are beyond our human understanding at this point of our evolution. Trust and faith gets us through these difficult times. I pray for you to find the closure you seek. Bless you.


  • Angel August 7, 2014, 10:10 pm

    I had a termination back in June and I am filled with so much regret. not a single day passes by where I don’t cry. All I want to feel is comfort in the fact that my baby is in God’s care. I know this but sometimes I wish I knew more. I wish I knew how my baby looked and what it was going to be. my days are harder but I pray everyday and apologise to my baby. I also feel like my termination drove my boyfriend away. He doesn’t show any feelings whatsoever he also found someone else. It’s very hard because now I have to deal with this issue on my own. I just need assurance that my baby will come back to me at the right time. I need to see my baby please help.

  • Selina August 8, 2014, 9:43 pm

    Hi Angel,

    I’m so sorry that you are having a hard time with this. Perhaps I can give you things to think about that might help. All beings are unconditionally loved by God. That means not only your baby’s spirit, but also you. There is perfect timing in everything. Perhaps the child’s spirit was not ready to incarnate fully. Perhaps this was an experience meant for both of you to help you grow spiritually. Forgive yourself and send love to your baby’s spirit. Trust that all things happen in the grace of God. Your child’s spirit is not suffering, but you are because of the guilt you feel. There is no need for this. Let go and have faith. Do not confuse your boyfriend’s actions with your own self-worth. He is on his own path. Instead, learn to treat yourself kindly. And trust that God knows what he is doing – if the baby was not meant to incarnate, it was not meant to incarnate.

    I wish you peace,

  • unknown August 28, 2014, 7:38 am

    I had something happen to me both sad n happy at the same time I was seven months pregnant. When I lost my son Adrian he was fully developed. N had hair too well my uterus. Ruptured. And we both almost died well I made it and my baby didn’t well its been 5 yrs n my body still has dreams that I’m pregnant. N well I was in the rest room waiting to shower n heard a baby say dada and at the same time I recorded. It I was sooo stunned because. No one was home n nothing was on I’m still scratching. My head

  • Mariah November 2, 2014, 2:55 am

    When my mom was 19 she became pregnant for her first time with my dad and have been together for 25 years today is November 1 2014 as i was alseep this morning i kept turning in my bed and i opend my eyes and saw a young girl maybee 16 balanceing herself impossibly on my thin unstable bookshelf with too many things in the way! No one had come to visit us and this girl was in fully human looking form with a pair of skates on her feet and her long blond hair down and she was bowing down with her eyes closed not moveing and then her whole body dissapeared and she left her skates but they dissapeared afterwords too and now i am thinking it could have been the fetus as a fully grown human from my mom that came to visit me! I cried told my roommate and mom! My mom became angrey and did not want to hear about it! And when i told her she said i never told you this before but when i was pregnant it was a boy! Then why did i see a female soul of what i bealive to be my possible unborn sister who right now would be 23?

  • Mariah November 2, 2014, 3:02 am

    Also that picture is of a woman i do not know with my same exact name same first middle and last name wich is extremly strange im actually 19 and do not have a child like the side picture shows you also for some reason my pist says its November 2nd but its actually November 1st and it is actually. 1200 pm afternoon time right now and not 2:55Am!!!

  • Selina November 3, 2014, 6:04 am

    Hi Mariah,

    An interesting experience! I feel that was not your sister’s spirit. The spirit does not feel malevolent. While it is possible that those who did not fully incarnate into this life can visit us and appear as they would have been as an older child or adult, I don’t believe this is the case.

    The spirit may have been a guide, someone just “dropping in” or another spirit associated with you. Try not to be frightened and rather than getting caught up in what happened, just stay open to learning more about this and ask God/Spirit/the Universe to share with you more information.

    All the best,

  • Tracy November 6, 2014, 8:30 pm

    I had a termination when i was 18 i am now 39 but at 14 weeks pregnant i had to have it terminated. recently i watched something on tv about unborn spirits and it has made me feel really guilty and sad.

  • Selina November 6, 2014, 11:08 pm

    Hi Tracy,

    What was it that the TV show said?


  • Steph Will November 21, 2014, 5:32 am

    I was in a relationship with someone who I love very much. I visioned his death and sadly he passed away similiar to the way I had visioned it. Since then I have been in another relationship. I became pregnant by my boyfriend and one night I had a dream that my boyfriend that passed away came into my bedroom and stole something, but I didnt know what because he ran out. And when I woke up out of the dream I was bleeding when I got rushed to the hospital the doctor told me there was no baby in my bag. This story is much deeper. My main concern is to figure out why would a spirit take an unborn child.

  • Angie April 12, 2015, 3:50 am

    I have had several reading with psychic that have told me for over a year now that there is a baby around my daughter. My daughter is not pregnant, and has never had a loss of a child, could this be a child trying to come thru?

  • Selina April 12, 2015, 9:16 pm

    Hi Angie, Yes that’s possible. Selina

  • Vanessa June 15, 2015, 11:36 am

    I totally discovered this site by chance.
    About 15 years ago I fell pregnant, however I unfortunately miscarried when I was about a month pregnant. Sometimes I feel my unborn child’s presence .
    I have since had 2 other children, one of which is a teenager and one who is almost 9.
    I wish to know if my unborn child will ever have a chance of being born or will be ever a spirit child?

  • Selina Khan June 15, 2015, 3:31 pm

    Hello Vanessa,

    Thank you for your comment and question. I feel that your child will choose to reincarnate, but at a later time. Spirit views time very differently than we do here on earth. Our lifetimes are but a blink of an eye compared to the eternity of our spirits. All spirits have a path and although not incarnate, the spiritual path does not end. So it is likely that your child will continue to evolve both in spirit and when once again in a body.

    Many blessings,

  • Tel July 2, 2015, 11:45 pm

    Me and my partner had a baby… he was a family man and I’m single …we are going thru haRd ship. ..including financial difficulties…… Due to our circumstances we both decided to ended the pregnancy. …but at the other side of my heart and mind I want to continue it but my man asked me to terminate it because it might affect his application to become a permanent resident in a certain country. ….until now I couldn’t forgive myself for the horrible things I’ve done…and I’m still longing for my unborn baby… I want my baby back badly….

  • Vanessa July 8, 2015, 12:27 am

    Hi there again, read your comment and that gives me hope. Just wondering if my spirit child will be born to my family, as your mentioned that my child has chosen to be born but in the future. As far as I’m concerned my spirit child is just as much my child as my human children. I’m not sure but I’m getting the sense that my spirit child has female energy.

  • Selina Khan July 8, 2015, 5:38 pm

    Hi Vanessa,

    It is not unusual for a child who did not incarnate and decides to return to be with the same family. Leave it up to Spirit. Ask for what is in everyone’s highest good to occur.


  • Karla ramirez January 16, 2016, 10:11 am

    Hi I just happen to land here .A few years back maybe about 4 I had gotten pregnant by a guy that I had intimacy maybe no more than 3 times while my boyfriend at that time had gone out the country for an emergency due to the fact that my boyfriend at the time had already been gone for 5 months I knew it was not his baby me and my boyfriend at the time were not married but we’re making plans to do so as soon as he returned. And since I already had two small kids by my previous marriage and this guy let’s call him kyle didn’t want nothing to know about the baby I decided to abort. The day I had the abortion was the last day I seen the guy and had lost complete contact with him.now moving forward to the present I randomly happen to move in a few houses down from him with out having any knowledge he lived like literally 4 houses down from me since we both lived in totally different cities around the time i had the abortion around 4 years ago and now I’m actually in a wonderful relationship with him . Like i mention I do have two kid’s a 9 yr old boy and a 7 year old Lil girl I had dated 1 other guy after the abortion and tried to get pregnant but never did so to my thinking what are the odds of dating 2 different healthy men with out even getting a pregnancy scare or a late period when with my two kids i got pregnant right away by their father and had a previous miscarriage before getting pregnant with my son. I have gone to see 3 different psychic readers and they all have told me that I have a soul following me can this be my aborted baby ?the last two visits with the two different psychic shows I’m going to have another baby and the most recent one said it was going to be with kyle who’s baby I aborted 4 years back. Which freaks me out because like I mentioned my previous two partners and i tried to get pregnant with out any luck. I also remember before I had the first miscarriage a lady randomly walked up to me and told me that not the be scare but that i was not going to have the baby that i was carrying but i was going to get pregnant again and it was going to be a boy then following two girls and indeed it went how she predicted I found out I was pregnant with my son 3 months after the miscarriage a year later I had my daughter. When pregnant with my son I had a dream about how he was going to looked and the crazy part is he looks exactly the same as in my dream. Getting back to my point me and Kyle have been having protected sex so I know I’m no where near pregnant but when we are having intimacy I feel a connection idk something I didn’t have with my last two partners and since he came back in to my life I feel like at peace .Like a bond its hard to explain both my kids say they are ready to have a Lil sister not a brother which amazes me on my daughters side since she gets so jealous and throws temper tantrums when i ever I carry my 6 month old niece and Kyle him self has a a Lil brother and sister the exact same age as my kids the other day Katherine the Lil 7 yr old sister out of the blue told me you are going to have a girl with Kyle and her name is going to be Harmony .I don’t believe in soul or life after death or none of this spirit stuff . But the fact that I randomly found him after loosing complete contact with him and the psych prediction and I do strongly feel like something is watching us when we are together. Can it only be coincidence that I found him
    again did God not want me to have a baby with the last two guys or did no spirit baby wanted to be fathered by my two laSt partners was it destiny that brought us together .does my aborted baby
    Know that me and Kyle have reunited again and why does the name Harmony bring me such happiness I really don’t even know
    what to beleive no more

  • Jo January 25, 2016, 2:56 pm

    Hi Selina, thanks for the article which helped me a lot. Last year age 33, I fell pregnant by accident with my first baby with my partner I have been with for over 15 years. For numerous reasons, we decided it was for the best to abort and try again when we were in a better position to have a child. In lots of ways, I regret it every day, but logically I know it was for the best despite how much I’m torn inside about it. We just wasn’t ready then(despite our age) and feel if we have had gone ahead, we’d have made a right mess of it. Anyway I’m now getting strong messages that the baby is now ready to come back and try again. I’m completely ready for them now too as is my partner, but are they ready for us? I really really want my baby back. Is it just wishful thinking on my part or have they waited for us? I love them so much and want them to know that at least. Thanks. Jo xx

  • Selina Khan January 25, 2016, 6:42 pm

    Hi Jo,

    Thanks for your comment. I’m glad the article helped. Take the pressure off yourself and trust that whomever is meant to come to you will. Yes, sometimes it is the same soul as before that didn’t have a chance to incarnate the first time. Other times, you receive a different soul.

    The child that didn’t incarnate does know the love you have for them. That you can be assured of. Open your heart to receive and know you’ll be given what is for the best for everyone.

    All the best,

  • Leeann February 26, 2016, 6:12 am

    Hi Selena , me and my fiance lost a baby thru miscarriage 2yrs ago. We were unaware I was pregnant and I had the miscarriage before I knew. This yr we had our daughter Leia. She is so loving and happy always smiling I am wondering if she is the spirit baby of the baby we lost 2yrs ago. And also if my older child and my new baby have been in a life together before? My new baby seems to act as if she has known her for forever….

  • Selina Khan March 2, 2016, 3:31 pm

    Hi Leeann,

    That’s because your older child and new baby are very connected in many ways – some are past lives, and then they are close in vibration in terms of their being in the same soul group. They used to hang out together on the other side before incarnating. Not necessarily the same soul as the one miscarried.

    Many blessings,

  • Rebecca March 30, 2016, 6:53 pm

    Hi my name is Rebecca I had a miscarriage back in 2009 an ever since I always have dream about a little boy with a lot of hair an always in the hospital an in 2010 I got pregnant an was told by three different doctor that I was having a boy an 2011when I went in to have the baby he came out a girl an I keep having this dream about the baby boy in the hospital with a lot of hair then I had a nother baby in 2012 an that baby came out a boy with a lot hair so I was wondering if that could of been the baby I lost in 2009 I never new the sex of the baby after I had my son my dreams stoped an now my son is three an he is very over protected over me more then my other kids its just gets to me cuz I really think that this baby came back to me just later could u help me out on this Thank you so much

  • Rebecca March 30, 2016, 6:59 pm

    I forgot to bring this up at the age of two an a helf my son got hit by a suv an Landed up in the hospital was this spirit bby trying to tell me something idk I just wish I understood this my son fine an health I’m just trying to figure it out.Thanks agane

  • Elena April 5, 2016, 6:50 am

    My dad passed away a couple months before I found out I was expecting. Is it possible that he held or met my unborn baby’s spirit before he was born?

  • Selina Khan April 6, 2016, 2:12 pm

    Hi Elena,

    Yes it is. As we tend to associate in soul groups – both your father’s spirit and your baby’s spirit would have been together before you gave birth. It’s nice to know that they met in spirit! Also, it’s also likely that your Dad’s spirit visits from time to time as well. So he would have seen his grandchild both in spirit without a body, and now in a body.


  • Selina Khan April 6, 2016, 3:07 pm

    Hi Rebecca,

    Yes that does happen sometimes. I think you were connected to his spirit through your dreams until it was time for him to come back again. Sometimes we have a strong connection with someone that transcends space and time.

    As for being hit by an SUV, that was a shared experience but not a direct message from his spirit to you. Feels like it was something he was meant to experience that served a higher purpose – i.e. part of an agreement in his Spiritual Blueprint.


  • LeeAnn April 16, 2016, 3:24 am

    Hi Selena , thank you for the info. One last thing is my new baby possibly the reincarnated soul of my father? She seems to be very deeply connected to me. I feel the same to her. Same as I was with my father…. I am not as connected with my older daughter it just seems strange. I feel there’s more to my new little baby than I understand 🙂

  • Selina Khan April 21, 2016, 2:51 pm

    Hi LeeAnn,

    Not your father’s spirit reincarnating. As a concept, yes it may happen. Enjoy the connection you have with your beautiful child.


  • Shalini May 8, 2016, 9:19 pm

    I lost one baby in 2000 at 4 months of pregnancy in an accident. Then I had a daughter in 2001, she is doing good. I again got pregnant in 2010 but because of some serious health problem i had to terminate my pregnancy in 7th week. I wasn’t told the gender of the babies, but I feel as if the first one was a boy and the last one was a girl. I am still not able to forget these losses, I miss my babies badly and really want them back in my life. I know I can’t undo what has already happened, I regret the abortion so much, it kills me from within. Why I am reaching out to you is that when I close my eyes I see a big boy and little girl crying for me. Sometimes I feel I heard a boy saying “Mom” to me even when there was nobody in the house. My babies are as dear to me as my only human daughter. Last year in 2015, I had developed tumor in my uterus and they removed my uterus from my body so I can’t conceive now. I need your help. What should I do to make myself at peace. Is there any way I can see my babies? Can I have my babies back in my life? I am really very very sad and depressed.

  • Maara May 10, 2016, 10:08 am

    Hi Selina, I had three babies miscarried unborn. I had my mind of my babies are passed away are around me in spirit. Once time I had dream I saw my baby face ceiling unexpected to explained it. I am pray to god one day I will meet my babies in heaven. I think my grandmothers, uncles, aunties, grandfathers are spoils with their grandchildren in heaven. I had dream that my baby had blonde hair expect my grandfather have gold blonde hair. Thank you !

  • Selina Khan May 11, 2016, 6:47 pm

    Hi Shalini,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your experiences and the sadness it has caused you. Everyone comes to peace in their own way. Love and forgiveness is a big part of that. If you need help working through this, please find a qualified therapist. This is a process they can help you with as they help you let go of the guilt and sadness.


  • Nakita May 30, 2016, 7:11 pm

    hi just had an abortion, it’s the biggest mistake of my life and I cannot stop grieving for my baby… I can’t carry on with my day to day life as all I think about is the baby.. The father of the child has not even botherd to support me through any of this.. Is my baby’s spirit still with me ??

  • Selina Khan June 2, 2016, 1:29 pm

    Hi Nakita,

    Yes your baby’s spirit has come to visit you. You will never lose that connection with your baby’s spirit. It’s not how the universe works. Nakita, please seek a counsellor or therapist to help you get through this. It’s important for you to get proper support in this time.


  • Mallory Rose June 5, 2016, 1:10 am

    I lost my daughter at 37 weeks due to umbilical cord wrapping around her foor. She was fully developed. My dad has passed, do you think he’s watching over her? How do I know if my baby’s spirit is with me or not.

  • Selina Khan June 6, 2016, 12:20 pm

    Hi Mallory,

    I’m so sorry to hear that your daughter did not have a chance to incarnate through you at this time. Your daughter is part of a soul group and will be with more people on the other side than just your dad. She is much loved and cherished where she is.

    Some people can sense that their baby’s spirit is with them. Others have dreams. Sometimes the baby comes at a different age – a small child or even a young woman. This is possible. Just because you can’t perceive the spirit doesn’t mean that they aren’t with you, visiting you.

    You are always connected to her as you are part of the same soul group and in reality, we are all one.


  • T_ree June 7, 2016, 9:59 am

    Dear Selina,
    Thank you for your article and honest and heartfelt responses to the comments. I gives me a lot of insight.
    My husband and I decided a couple of years ago not to have kids anymore due to his age. So I let go of the wish to become a mother again, but felt sad back then. Now, years later our family had found a nice balance until i found out that I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago. First I felt like it did not fit into the path I had taken now, but in seconds I became so happy and could not believe it. I moved everything aside for this pregnancy. And my husband was even happier than I was. But then I miscarried at 7 weeks and I felt really sad. But I knew that everything happens for a reason and soon felt like my old self again. Now my questions are. Is this baby still about to come, I am already 39. should I create the opportunity again or leave it as is? My partner does not want to plan it. This miscarriage was an eye-opener that the wish is still present in me. Also, my beloved brother in law passed away some months ago and I felt him when i was pregnant, my due date was even one day later than the date that he passed. I am just curious if it was him wanting to come through. I really hope you can respond, thank you in advance!

  • Selina Khan June 13, 2016, 3:06 pm

    Hi T_ree,

    Thanks for your comment and sharing your experiences with us. I understand that you want to see if you can get pregnant again and want to know whether this child’s spirit is waiting to be brought through you. I can’t tell you what to decide in trying to get pregnant again or not. That is not my decision to make. Your child’s spirit is not hovering about you waiting to come back as if this would be a missed opportunity. Know that your child’s spirit has a path that will be perfect and whether that is through you or elsewhere, in the bigger picture spiritually speaking, everything will be as it should be.

    I don’t feel that your brother-in-law was looking to reincarnate through you. I do feel that while you were pregnant your intuition was heightened, thus you felt his presence around you. I can see him standing by you when your were pregnant when he popped in to visit you. He does tend to come around the house now and then.

    I wish you all the best with your decision and many blessings for either path that you choose to create.


  • Gen June 21, 2016, 9:17 pm

    Thank you for your site and the insight you have given. My younger sister passed away unexpectedly a little Kerr two weeks ago. Myself and my family are devastated. She also left behind three young children. Out of the blue, I remembered years ago she decided to terminate a pregnancy and for some reason that gives me a little comfort knowing that she has a child now with her. Because of the way she passed, I worry she feels alone and misses her children. But, your site has given me some comfort that perhaps she also has a child with her also. I miss her deeply and hope she is okay. 🙁

  • ghost June 26, 2016, 11:34 pm

    my girlfriend and i recently loss our daughter a little over 38 weeks. I’m just so loss, blaming myself, and upset. Her umbilical cord was wrapped 3 times around her belly pretty tight. I believe there’s a chance she’ll be back with us wether in this life or afterlife. I pray i get to see her again she was about 10 days away from being born. To those that claim they had a miscarriage and eventually the baby came back did that make you feel better?Any advice as far as giving my girl because she feels as if it’s her fault cause she hadn’t felt the baby move but I was also telling her the baby was prolly sleep cause i learned that the closer it is for the baby to be born the more they sleep. I do take partial blame. I guess i’m just looking for closure and really hoping that my baby will come to me wether it’s a dream a vision or come back to us through another kid of ours. God bless everyone here and thanks for listening.

  • T_ree August 12, 2016, 6:01 pm

    Thank you very much for Your response Selina. It made so much sense and made me feel at peace. God bless💛

  • Andrea August 22, 2016, 4:19 am

    Hi, Its been about five years sense i aborted my baby. I was afraid to have her/ him because of the situation i was in. I didn’t know who the father was and wasn’t happy with the man i was with and already had a son that was a little under a year. I was so cold and had no feelings or remorse for anything at this time in my life and the abortion didn’t really faze me…. sometimes i would think about it and become upset but it would pass quickly, like i just pushed it aside so i didn’t have to feel or deal with the guilt. Well its 4am now and iv been crying for hours regretting my decision and its really hurting. I have been looking up many things tonight from what happens a to the babys after termination and it kills me inside to know that i did that to my child who woykd have loved me unconditionally and was probably so scared. I now have another son who is 20 months…. and earlier today and yesterday sometimes when i look at him i feel like his eyes are so deep and that there is more to him than just, this has only stood out two times so far. And with this thought randomly coming into my mind coyld it be my unborn child saying hi? Or something like that. I feel bad not talking so much about my oldest but could it be true? The dads wouldn’t be the same but coukd it still be a possibility….

    Your story and all these comment really filled my heart tonight and let me feel some ease. I always believe that god has a plan for us all and knows everything be for it happens a, i just didn’t know if abortion was one of the things that he coukd have control over.

  • Selina Khan August 22, 2016, 5:49 pm

    Hi Andrea,

    Thank you for sharing your experiences and feelings with us. Often we make decisions in our lives that at the time feel very right to us. When our lives change and our circumstances change, it can be easy to feel that we could have made a different choice at that time in the past. Who you were then and who you are now are not the same. At each of these points of time in your journey of growth called life, you made the choices that were appropriate to who you were.

    Your child that did not incarnate through you completely returned to that which is Love also called Divine source, God, Creator, etc. What shines through the eyes of your son is not just your unborn child but also the connection that we all have to infinite truth. It is like a glimpse to Home. Yes, it comes through both sets of eyes – Source coming through the eyes of your unborn child, coming through the eyes of the one that was born. Did you see the incredible deep and unconditional love coming through? Let go of the regret. It is not necessary to carry such suffering.


  • Curious Candis October 9, 2016, 2:00 am


    I am curious. When I was about 16 or 17, I believe I had a miscarriage but thought it was just a heavier period. Now that I’m older (26) I realize it really was a miscarriage as I have never bled that much or have had that bad of cramps before, ever. Since then, I’ve had two boys. I am just wondering if that spirit of that baby is still around me? He or she would be about 10 years old. How would I know? Thank you for your response.

  • Alicia October 18, 2016, 10:23 pm

    In February I lost my son to stillbirth at 38 weeks. I had a placental abruption and didn’t make it to the hospital in time to save him. I often feel him around me and know I’ll see him again some day. We are starting to try again and I often wonder if he will come back to us. I have vivid dreams of him and also a little girl too. Reading these blogs give me a little peace. Thank you!

  • gracegm October 21, 2016, 2:26 am

    Hi, I had a medical abortion at 6wks as I had a forced marriage and had a bad relatoship. I real issues at work and I couldnt get any support to have the bby. Since I wanted my baby back and now has a son and a daughter, as I forgave my husband. Is any of my childrn has my eldest baby’s spirit?how is the baby?Did it feel pain while aborted?Does it wnt to come back as my child for good?Pls alleviate my suffering kindly.

  • Selina Khan October 28, 2016, 9:41 am

    Hi Alicia,

    I’m glad that these blogs help you. Blessings to you! Selina

  • Selina Khan October 28, 2016, 10:28 am

    Hi Grace,

    I’m sorry you are having trouble finding peace around this difficult experience. Yes, one of your children (the son) is the same spirit as the one you did not bring through before. Focusing on the bond between you and your family is more important right now than the past. Let go of the past and your questions and know all things are for our growth, understanding and experience to bring us back into a state of love.


  • gracegm November 2, 2016, 7:52 pm

    Thank you so much selina, I am so glad to hear that, beyond words. Thank you so much

  • Mimi November 11, 2016, 2:02 pm

    I have spoken with two psychics within the past 2 years inquiring whether I will get married and/or have children. The first medium stated that she saw me with a little girl but didn’t know if I would have this child biologically.

    The second medium stated that she saw three kids altogether: either one male or two females or vice versa but she could not confirm whether it was going to be blended family (one or two coming from my future spouse and one girl from me). She stated that she saw a boy, someone that was very curious about life and had a thirst for knowledge. During the meeting, she stated that a toddler girl came through, she couldn’t figure out whether the girl had been a child that may I have been pregnant with that the pregnancy didn’t come into fruition or whether she was a future child but she identified to her that she was my child. I will be 37 next year, to my knowledge, I have never been pregnant or have spontaneously miscarried. I hope that if this has ever occurred that I would know somehow that it was a miscarriage of some sort.

    She stated that the child is always around me, she had already picked me as her mom but she’s waiting for the right time to come.

    I am wondering a few things: (a) Whether this child will be biological, (b) when will I become conceive/birth her, (c) will a child’s spirit come through to an individual/medium even if they are going to be adopted into the family, and (d) can a medium tell if a woman will never have children but will adopt children?

    I’ve always had great interest in adopting but, as a woman, you always want to birth a child as well. There is a piece of me that believes that the children mentioned by the second medium will be adopted, if not all three of them. If I know that I am not destined for a biological child, then I’d like to seek all opportunities to adopt, preferably siblings.

    You have a great gift and I was wondering if you had any insight into my situation.

  • Erika November 11, 2016, 10:36 pm

    I was pregnant with my fourth Child, when me and my husband found out we were worried because are 3rd has cerebral palsy and has seizures and takes medication and she was only 4 when I found out I was pregnant. We had lots of worries what if something goes wrong with the pregnancy cause I had lots of complications with my other pregnancy or how can we raise another child if we have to give are all to are daughter with the disability.
    But me and my husband talk it through and decided to keep the baby . I had high blood pressure and I was always extremely high I was high risk so scared something will go wrong I will always pray to God to give me a Healthy baby and watch over her and me….
    At 20 weeks I found out was a girl!!! So I picked out the name Madison for her 🙂 I was gonna do her Baby shower (Sunflowers)
    I was due August 26,2016…
    On June 2,2016 My husband grandma died we went to see her in the hospital before she passed. On June4th my brother was having a babyshower he was having a boy we were excited cause my brother wife was due almost the same time.And how close they will be … So those days I havent been feeling my baby move… I taught she wasn’t active.
    On June 8th ,2016 I had a ultrasound so I was gonna bring it up to the doctor about her not moving.
    So we went to the ultrasoundmy blood was sky high they rushed me to the emergency room they did a ultrasound and there was no Heartbeat…. 🙁
    I couldn’t believe it!!!!
    I was 28 weeks …
    Were buried our Little Girl
    Madison Heaven Chavez
    She was so beautiful ….
    When we buried her my neighbor went to the funeral and she got a picture in the sky : it looked just like a baby laying down .

    DID MY HUSBAND GRANDMA MEET My BABY when She Passed a week before my daughter PASSED??

    And ever time I see my brother son I get tingles and I feel something when he around…?
    Oh yeah remember I said I was gonna do sunflowers for my baby baby shower now me and my husband come across seeing Sunflowers and butterflies and white feathers and I always feel that she around … Is that her way saying she is around.

  • Candy Jenkins November 20, 2016, 9:02 am

    I had a dream last night that I met all of my miscarried babies even the one that was aborted for a choice I had to make with a heavy heart. There were 6 total all girls but I was 15 when I miscarried the first one and the Dr took it out of the room and it was still in the sac. My mother told me the Dr said it was a boy. The Dr was a very cold and hateful person. Anyway these miscarried children I saw were all girls with red hair which is a trait in the family and we were all sitting on a big couch in a department store getting to know each other. I felt happy and hugged them all but I also felt confronted even though they didn’t say hardly say anything to me but yes or no when asked a question. My mother was there with me trying to write down their names but I never gave them a name. They all looked the age they were supposed to be. One looked extremely small and I wondered if it could’ve been the baby that was in my tubes. What do you think this dream means? I think about them all the time. The oldest would be 27 now and the youngest 16.

  • Tara November 22, 2016, 10:51 am

    Hello, I have a question regarding infants that only lived a short time after they are born. My youngest sister passed away two and a half weeks after being born due to S.I.D.S. I’ve always felt like she’s hung around watching over me. This year on her birthday I heard a baby crying. The only problem with that there are no children in my home. My question, is it possible for a 2 week old infant to have a spirit and could I try to contact her?

  • Selina Khan December 7, 2016, 7:45 pm

    Hi Tara,

    Yes a 2 week old infant absolutely would have a spirit. Yes you can contact her. You may find that her spirit presents itself at a different age than she passed. Keep an open mind and trust your intuition when you contact her spirit.


  • Selina Khan December 7, 2016, 7:50 pm

    Hi Candy,

    Sometimes in our dreams we really do meet the spirits of others. Other times it’s a projection of our subconscious mind. And usually there is a mix of the two. In this dream it sounds like you may have indeed had contact with these babies, but that because you may still be carrying sadness and guilt, it may alter the way you connect with them your dreams. When you shift, your dreams will shift and so will your connection to spirit.


  • angie December 12, 2016, 12:25 am

    I had a abortion 3 weeks ago the worse decision I would ever make have regrets but do to health reason didnt have a choice if I pray could my baby spirit come back really hope so that I get a second chance timing to be right I can love it

  • Cnn December 12, 2016, 1:23 am

    Hi Selina
    thanks for your blog.I had a loss at 6months into the pregnancy which I don’t even understand what happened.I had this healthy pregnancy and everyone was all happy for me.But a strong feeling came over that led me to termination at this stage.I feel awful about myself since I had well planned for my baby.I don’t seem to understand each day I find myself beating up myself over the issue and asking my baby’s soul to come back to me.I wish I can communicate to the baby and tell him how sorry I am and that I welcome him back.I am conducted a medium and was told it was a spell cast on me but I am not still at peace.I feel like I failed.I feel bad that my baby had to go just like that.Could this have been the life chosen by the spirit?

  • Selina Khan December 18, 2016, 4:20 pm

    Hi Cnn,

    Your baby’s spirit hears you. You don’t need a medium to communicate. A medium can relay messages from the spirit world to you, but you don’t need a medium to communicate with your spirit family, spirit guides, or angels. They are aware of your emotions, thoughts and words. When you think about them, there is an instant connection. Sometimes we think about them because they are already around us and we are picking up on their energetic vibration.

    Please stop beating yourself up. You didn’t fail. You made a choice. Every being has free will to create experiences that allows it to grow, including your baby’s spirit.

    Self-forgiveness and acceptance is what opens the heart so we can connect with each other in a deeper way – no matter if people are still in their bodies or have crossed over. In the heart, there is no judgement, no shame…just unconditional love. That is what I believe is called truth. All other emotions like guilt, anger, fear come from a separation from love and a separation from the divine source that exists in all things.

    Please be VERY careful in believing that there is a spell cast on you. When you give your power to these kinds of thoughts sometimes it’s possible to create a self-fulfilling prophecy. There are, unfortunately, people who scam other people out of large amounts of money telling them they have been cursed or had a spell cast on them. They can be gifted enough to gain your trust but still corrupt. Even if this medium was not trying to manipulate you this way, remember that you have the power to be stronger than anything that is negative as you are part of the divine creator.

    And finally, yes, this could have been the experience that the spirit that did not incarnate through you wanted. Yes that is possible.


  • Varinder January 2, 2017, 1:44 am

    Dear Selina,

    I lost my precious daughter after 47 days of her birth. There were some complications right from the start and she struggled very hard every single day to live. Doctors kept telling they dont know what was she holding on to. After her passing I always knew deep down that she will ce back again. It was our love that kept her going for so many days. I got connected to her via someone who does autowriting. The msgs say that she will find her way back to you when the time is right and then another msg said she is feeling an urge to be with you more and more. Is it possible that a child can return as the next child. We do want to TTC again after I am healed as I had a csection.


  • TJS January 6, 2017, 10:39 pm

    I had a miscarriage in 2008 @14 weeks. Before the physical miscarriage I awoke one night to something floating over my head. It freaked me out I layer back down quickly and tried to get back up but when I raised up my head got close to this small figure. It didn’t look human but it wasn’t something scary. It had a glow around it and it wore a robe. It finally disappeared and immediately thought I was tripping out. A week or 2 later I was asleep and my daughter whom was 2 at the time was watching cartoons next to me. I awoke again to like a push and when I opened my eyes I saw a bright ball of light floating to the ceiling. I could make out little wings and it was smiling as and it just fluttered through the ceiling. My daughter and I both watched it until it disappeared. I once again thought I was tripping out. I never mentioned it to anyone because I thought they would think I was crazy. The morning of the miscarriage was not a normal day. I woke up feeling really energized and feeling good. My morning sickness was gone. I thought it was because I was entering my 2nd trimester. I went to the bathroom and saw blood it didn’t really freak me out until I felt a pop and my water broke. I miscarried and was devastated. My husband was in the Army and his company was at the hospital with me. My husband asked me if I wanted the chaplain to say a prayer and I said no I want to grieve alone. My husband sent the chaplain in anyway. The chaplain came in and prayed and it’s like a light bulb went off in my head…..the bright ball of light was the spirit of my baby. I replayed everything over in my head and it all made sense. The small push I felt was the baby’s soul leaving me. I’m not sure what the thing floating over my head was but I’m thinking they were there to get the baby. I’ve always wondered why I was allowed to see all of that happening. I never had a sense of the genders but I always think about the babies I miscarried. This miscarriage is just the one that stands out because of the things I saw before it happened. Is there a reason why you think I was able to see these things. Thanks for allowing me to share my story.

  • Leeann January 12, 2017, 4:25 am

    Hi Selina… My baby is a yr old and she has been saying nang nang on and off which is what the grans called my mother… Has she met her on the other side before being born? Or does she visit her? We are quite confused.

  • Selina Khan January 19, 2017, 4:34 pm

    Hi Leeann,

    Children are more open to seeing spirit. It could be that your mom is around in spirit and your baby is seeing her and calling her nick name. Yes, they would recognize each other. Commonly, this ability is lost as children mature.


  • Selina Khan January 19, 2017, 5:01 pm

    Hi TJS,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. What a beautiful gift to have connected with the spirit of your child in that way. I believe that all things happen for a reason and a purpose. Perhaps that child was not meant to incarnate but wanted to share with you that it was taken care of and safe. You may have been able to see that so clearly because the energy frequencies of the child and child’s guide or helper in that instance was in harmony with your frequency at that time. I also feel that you were meant to see it and the spirit manifested so it could be seen.


  • Selina Khan January 19, 2017, 5:08 pm

    Hi Varinder,

    I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Yes it is possible for the same soul to incarnate with you as a future child.


  • T.W January 27, 2017, 10:56 am

    I am currently 6 weeks pregnant. I am almost 37 and already have two children (16 and 11). I always knew I would have another however, I am not ready. My finances are in shambles, my husband is in the military and we are currently in a temporary living situation. I feel like it would be selfish to bring a child into my current situation. But…I feel connected to this baby. Please help

  • Selina Khan February 16, 2017, 4:48 pm

    Hi T.W,

    Finances and living situations may change. You may want to speak to your husband about this decision and your worries and get his input and support. I can’t help you make this decision. You need to do what is in your heart and not let fear take over – that is for either case, whether you decide to keep the child or not.

    All the best,

  • Leeann March 17, 2017, 5:10 pm

    Hi again… I just recently became pregnant can you give me any insight about this spirit baby?? And do you think it has a connection with my other two girls? I had a psychic tell me one day I would have a boy and his spirit name was Evan. Obviously this wasn’t the case with my 14mo old she’s a girl. So I’m wondering if this baby is “Evan”?

  • Priscilla March 19, 2017, 7:42 pm

    Hi Selena,

    A few years back I got pregnant with my youngest child. My unborn child manifested himself to four different people in their dreams. I didn’t even know I was pregnant when my friend told me she dreamt I was 5 months months pregnant with a boy. In her dream she saw my baby run his little hand across my stomach from inside my womb, and saw his little handprint. Five more people dreamt with my baby boy, four who didn’t even know I was pregnant. I have two older children, which are special in their own way, however, I’ve always felt there was something extra special with this baby. Why was he making his presence know from inside the womb, to others?

  • Selina Khan March 20, 2017, 4:38 pm

    Hi Priscilla,

    The messages were for you, and not specifically for the people who got them. They were the messengers to give you the message that your child was wanting you to know how aware he was of his connection to you. Easier for his spirit to communicate through the dream state. Yes a child with very strong intuitive abilities right from the womb, indeed!


  • Sophia March 24, 2017, 10:54 pm

    Hi Selina,
    I had a medical abortion at seven weeks almost 3 months ago. I am devastated. How can we welcome the baby back into our family?

  • Unknown March 26, 2017, 6:45 pm

    I’ve always felt a spiritual connection to my daughters father from the day I met him i felt drawn to him and knew we wernt meant to be together I even dreamt I was pregnant around the time of conception my daughter is very knowing and has great spirituality about her, her personality is infectious and draws in many people i feel like she was around me before could you confirm this? Also myself and my partner have separated which I didn’t think would ever happen is this for a reason? Are we meant for different paths I aborted a child just after my daughter is born is this child around us or with his mother that had previously passed

  • Selina Khan April 3, 2017, 4:39 pm

    Hi Sophia,

    I’m so sorry you are having a difficult time. You may want to speak to a counsellor for some support through this. As for welcoming the baby back into the family, the best thing to do is to forgive yourself and know that if the baby is meant to return it will. There is nothing specific you need to do.


  • nichole April 23, 2017, 2:56 am

    i don’t know why i,m here but , i lost my baby in my womb, and had to give birth to it at 20 weeks, i don’t really know the gender but, i keep thinking it was a girl.every may 8, i dread, but i was wondering i know they say they can come back to us in another pregnancy but what if you cannot be with your husband that you love and share children with, how can u know if the child could or cannot come back and is there anyway to communicate with it?i am to old and i don’t think i will ever be able to conceive with my husband due to him being in prison now.

  • Selina Khan April 28, 2017, 6:10 pm

    Hi Nichole,

    I am so sorry to hear about your baby. I can’t imagine how hard it must have been to go through that experience. Yes, you can communicate with the spirit and if you don’t feel confident enough, you can see a Medium. Spirit hears us. They hear our words and our thoughts. When you speak to your baby’s spirit, she knows.

    Sometimes the spirit does return and sometimes not. Sometimes there is a reason to why the spirit only wanted to experience up to that point. If you can’t conceive, that’s okay. Trust that God, the child’s spirit and your spirit as well know this and that it’s okay as if it was meant to be, it would be.


  • Gina May 17, 2017, 5:31 pm

    Hi Selina,
    It’s been 13 years, but within the first couple years after a regretful and not my choice termination due to age, I’ve had these visions, dreams, and actual feelings or vibrations. Each time it was the same child. She grew a little towards the last dream. Could that be my babies unborn spirit and if I was feeling that it was a female presence is it true that she was a she, and MINE??
    Also, the feelings and dreams stopped after I had shared it with someone. That’s when I had the dream a couple years later where she had grown, but it’s been about 9-10 yrs since I’ve seen her in my dreams or felt her presence with me.

  • Selina Khan May 18, 2017, 10:28 am

    Hi Gina,

    Yes this does happen. Sometimes when we lose a child or terminate a pregnancy, the spirit will come to us as if they had grown according to our time on earth. Dreams are a typical way of connecting with us. As you are psychically open and can feel her spirit energy around you, you are able to pick up when she is visiting you. When we understand the message they bring or when we are better in our emotions around the situation, they may not come as often. Sometimes not for very long stretches of time. It’s not because they aren’t available to us. It’s more so that we don’t need their reassurance as much.

    Trust you intuition. You’ll know in your heart when you are connecting to your child’s spirit.


  • Gina May 18, 2017, 4:13 pm

    Thank you so much Selina. I asked her when I was falling asleep last night to visit me in my dreams. I can’t remember my dreams from last night, but I’ll have to be a bit more relaxed I suppose. Again, thank you for the clarity. 🙂

  • Marie May 23, 2017, 1:22 am

    Hi Selina,
    I am intrigued and moved by your insight on this blog. Several years ago I had two pregnancy scares. I was in a short term relationship and felt at the time it was best to take the morning after pill. Last year I had to have a hysterectomy. Being almost 40 and having 3 children already, being medically necessary, it was time. I actually spoke with a medium for the first time ever today who saw my grandmother holding a baby spirit. I question if this baby (whom she said was a boy) was indeed the spirit of a possible pregnancy that occurred when I took the morning after pill? I’ve never had a miscarriage or abortion. I’ve grieved this thought shortly after my hysterectomy but wondered if that was just part of the process psychologically. My dear cousin’s daughter recently lost her baby boy 3 weeks prior to her due date. Is the baby my grandmother holding that of hers, (would be great-great grandson) or was it mine?
    Thank you!

  • Michelle May 26, 2017, 2:45 pm

    I’ve been so lost lately. I have two beautiful children. My husband and I had decided not to have anymore as I experienced pretty severe post partum depression. We unexpectedly found ourselves pregnant four months ago. I panicked and had the strong feeling I had to terminate. I have been living in a VERY dark place since. I have this obsession that I did something terribly wrong and my family is suffereing because of it. I thought I was done having children but this has left a hole in my heart and I feel like I have unfinished business. I can barely sleep and am having trouble eating. I didn’t have any thoughts about spirit when I went through with the termination. But now it’s all I think about. I want this spirit in my life I just don’t know how to achieve that as my husband is quite opposed to having any more children (another reason for termination). I was not level headed and never believed this would be my life. I want to be happy again but I don’t know if that can be achieved after abortion and not ever having another pregnancy.

  • Selina Khan May 31, 2017, 3:57 pm

    Hi Michelle,

    I’m so sorry you are having such a difficult time. Please seek counselling from a therapist or other qualified mental health expert. You can find peace with some proper support and it may help you to speak to someone about how you are feeling.

    From a spiritual perspective, I can share this with you. We are all part of one source. Whether or not this spirit incarnated does not change that you are always connected to them. In a larger sense, they are already a part of you and you are a part of them. We are all one. That connection cannot be broken.

    Peace and blessings to you.


  • Selina Khan May 31, 2017, 4:13 pm

    Hi Marie,

    Glad you enjoy the blog. It was yours or at least, the potential of that child for you shown as spirit chose to show it. There is different thought around when the spirit actually enters or completely enters during pregnancy.


  • Rachana June 10, 2017, 10:35 am

    Hi Selina,

    Hope your doing well. I hope will find a ray of hope in your answers.

    I have been looking for answers on my aborted baby of 10 weeks which went away in April 2017. I yearned for this child for many years, but when I finally conceived the circumstances were not right and I did not have the moral support from both my mom and my husband. I have been devastated since then. And after the abortion my husband realised how much I wanted this child.
    He says we can ttc when the situation is right. But then I am not sure that if my health condition will ever let me conceive again and that the doctor had told me that I conceiving was a miracle.
    In a matter of a few days my life has completely changed and I have lost interest in everything. I am just living for my older child but then I just feel like ending my life every minute and going and taking care of my lost child on the other side if it can’t come through.

    Please will you be able to tell me if my child will ever come back to me. I’ll never be able to forgive myself for the rest of my life. If I had stood strong I would have had my baby in a few months.

    Awaiting your response.

  • Amber June 14, 2017, 5:28 pm

    Do what you’re saying is an unborn child can transition and grow in the afterlife? Because my friend miscarried 6 years ago and she hears a little girl voice about 6 years old always calling out the word ‘mommy’. Is is possible for a child in the spirit world to transform and develop like we do in human form?

  • ash June 25, 2017, 3:48 pm


    I keep asking why , why couldn’t I keep my baby ? Why didn’t the father accept our baby

  • natasha July 5, 2017, 12:17 pm

    I was pregnant by my ex, it was a abusive relationship so I had an abortion. Even though it was years ago ive always felt guilty but I no I made the right decision because it wouldn’t of been fair on the child. Im now 34 and expecting with my fiancée of 14 years and I’ve been so worried about something bad happening to the baby because of what I did, my fiancée reassure me and reminds me of why I did what I did. He tells me he doesn’t think bad or judge me for the abortion because it was the right decision. He knew me when I was with my ex and seen the type of relationship it was so he’s said that bring a child into the world then wasn’t good and to stop worrying that God is going to punish me. I was always worried that I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant, so I made out I didn’t want children even though I know my fiancée is nothing like my ex or my own dad so I finally got over the abandonment issues of my dad. Then in April we got pregnant first try and I’m 14 weeks now. I’ve had dreams about the time I was young and pregnant and the situation plays out in my dream down to the same weeks pregnant I was.
    I tell my unborn baby in the spirit world that I love them so much, that I’m sorry and for my family to look after them.

    I just wish I was able to have a sign from them and know if they hear me.

  • Selina Khan July 5, 2017, 6:21 pm

    Hi Rachana,

    If you feel like ending your life or that you have no interest in it, it is of the utmost importance that you seek immediate help from a qualified mental health practitioner. If you don’t know where to go, contact your doctor or your emergency clinic and they will be able to help. You are not alone in this.

    As far as spirituality goes, I believe that we exist in a loving universe. Yes, we have free will here. And even with that free will, there is a larger plan that connects all of us. This spirit that did not incarnate through you is already surrounded by divine love. You don’t need to go to the other side to take care of your child but you can always connect with your child’s spirit through your heart. Your child’s spirit is absolutely fine. Your path is here, on this earth.

    You ask if it’s possible for the child’s spirit to come back? Yes, if it is meant to be and if things align to that possibility. You are not completely responsible for the alignment, which means you do your best and then you let go and trust if is meant to happen, it will.

    Please be kind and gentle with yourself.


  • Selina Khan July 5, 2017, 6:25 pm

    Hi Amber,

    My experience is that sometimes the spirit that did not have a chance to be born shows itself as if it had aged according to earth time, but not always. There is no sense of time as we know it on the other side so technically there is not the same kind of “growth” as you speak of. Spirit comes to us as they choose to, most often for our benefit and recognition of them.


  • Selina Khan July 5, 2017, 7:14 pm

    Hi Natasha,

    One of the things I am told is that sometimes we get what we want, but sometimes we get what we need and the two things may not be the same. People sometimes ask me why it is that they don’t get a sign. Why can’t they just tell us they are okay by giving a sign? I know that there are different reasons for this.

    One is that we are to learn to be okay with ourselves and have faith. Another is that they may be trying to give us signs but we miss them. Sometimes it’s because we aren’t ready even if we think we are ready because inside we don’t feel we deserve or we are still overwhelmed by judgement, grief or guilt. Spirit may respect that we aren’t ready and not give the sign although we ask for it.

    Other times, we do get signs but they are aren’t enough for us. Our minds tend to discount the “small” stuff thinking that a sign has to be big to be real.

    You sound very wise and I love that you speak to your child’s spirit. I’ll tell you what I know. I know that spirit hears you. You don’t need a medium to speak to them. You can do this in your mind (thoughts are vibrations and spirit understands the energy of your thoughts) or out loud. It doesn’t matter if I say something to them or you do – they hear both of us clearly.

    There is no point in dwelling on punishment as God is loving. At some point, you’ll have to decide to let the past be the past and start moving forward so that you can teach your new child – to love in a healthy way, have compassion for self and others, and be happy. You do this by authentically embodying these things yourself and being a role model. You have these qualities within you to give to your new child.

    So please forgive yourself and start to shine your beautiful soul into the world again.


  • Marla July 13, 2017, 1:08 pm

    I lost my daurghter almost 3 yrs ago due to complications that almost caused my death.The experience During her transitioning was beyond words! During the grieving process I prayed and asked for a sign. I did receive a sign on the actual date she was supposed to be born and A year later I received news that I was pregnant with another girl. Which was a shocker
    because I was on birth control due to being afraid to try again, and risk both our lives again I often question myself by thinking if my new baby is the one that passed away. Is it possible that that they could be the same person? I miss her sooo much and want to connect with her could she have crossed over to try again to fulfil her purpose on earth?

  • Selina Khan July 24, 2017, 4:13 pm

    Hi Marla,

    Yes it is possible it is the same spirit. Not every spirit waits the same amount of time to incarnate again. It is possible for her to incarnate a year later.


  • Angie August 10, 2017, 9:36 pm

    In March 2006 I had an abortion. I was 22 and it was a very difficult choice. I’ve had mixed feelings about it over the years ranging from relief, regret, deep sadness, acceptance, and then more sadness…and then more acceptance. I have never really felt that it was the wrong choice, but it still makes me sad that it happend. I often wonder about the spirit of the child, which was how I stumbled across this page. Although, there have been times in my life where I didn’t think about the child. The thoughts come in waves. Sadly, I have never had a dream about the child (I wish I did). My boyfriend at the time ended up becoming my husband and almost exactly 10 years later, in March 2016, I gave birth to a boy. I have so many questions. I’ve never felt that my son has the same spirit as the aborted child. I’ve just never felt that. Now with my son growing up into a toddler, seeing how he is, I wonder a lot lately about my first pregnancy and about what that child might have been like. I am thinking more about that first pregnancy than ever before. Could that child ever come back to me? Is she (or he) angry with me? Does God forgive me? Does God forgive my husband (he has never had any regrets or sadness about it)? The worst part is how lonely it feels, having these thoughts and questions. There isn’t anyone I can talk to about it. Thanks.

  • Bozena August 18, 2017, 12:34 pm

    Over 14 years ago I had miscarriage, I remember like yesterday worst day of my life. Later that year I got pregnant with son who just turn 13. For years family members told me they felt a present of little boy in my house, I never felt anything until my husband witness something . He was seating on back deck and saw a boy walk out the house he look like my 13 year son but taller in in navy blue. My son who is 13 always say where he is going . That one didn’t say nothing. My husband went to check on my son in his bedroom and was sleeping wearing white t-shirt. Then my husband realize he saw our boy , the one we lost 14 years ago.

  • Yaldz August 19, 2017, 5:32 am

    at this writing, I amazed and thankful to God, i can talk my two unborn child and they both becomes an angels of God.

  • Selina Khan August 23, 2017, 4:06 pm

    Hi Angie,

    I can only tell you what I’ve learned from my interactions with spirit and from my own years of experience of how this universe works. From what I understand, sometimes the child will reincarnate again within your lifetime, and sometimes not. You already know that your son is not the same spirit that did not fully incarnate.

    God is a loving God. God is also an all knowing God. I’m using the word God as you have used it. I see God as a vast and loving intelligence of energy that is everything, everywhere, and is expressing itself through us and all of life.

    There is nothing to forgive as all is already loved and held with unconditional regard from God’s point of view. We are not here to be punished, but to learn and experience so we can become one again with Divine Love and Light through remembering who we are – not impermanent bodies and minds, but eternal spirits born of and a part of Divine Spirit.

    I know that you may feel lonely. There are many women who have made the same choice as you have and wonder the same things. Although we may feel we are alone, we are never truly ever alone as we are one with all life. Life does not die, it transforms. All of what you perceive will transform back into the energy of which it is (God/Love) and always has been a part of, and it may continue to transform as needed under the Divine plan.

    I hope this makes sense to you.


  • Vicky Love October 27, 2017, 7:58 am

    Hi, I had a reading this week and I was told that I had a miscarriage very early into pregnancy and may not have even noticed or known I was pregnant. she said the spirit of the baby is around me waiting to incarnate. however already having 2 children my husband and I decided to not have anymore children. she went on to say if that is the case then you need to be extra careful as the spirit baby will try and find a way. its left me wondering about this spirit baby and If am stopping my true fate path. will the spirit baby stick around with me its nice knowing that it will but its now got me thinking about her and wanting to meet her. I suppose I am wondering if I decide to keep to the original plan of sticking to the 2 children will I upset the spirit baby and stop her path, as I am thinking of her so much.

  • Selina Khan November 1, 2017, 6:25 pm

    Hi Vicky,

    You do what is in your heart that is right for you. If you choose not to have a child and there is a spirit that could incarnate through you but doesn’t, it does not mean that child is blocked or lost in any way. Remember that Divine Love, God, the Universe or whatever you may choose to call the creative intelligent force will give that spirit another way to experience. That could be with you or through another.


  • Sheila November 29, 2017, 9:18 am

    Hi selina i had an abortion at 9 weeks because it was an unplanned pregnancy and the timing was not right this was my 3rd pregnancy since my first one also ended in abortion without me even knowing be cause someone deceively gave me the pills. This was a very hard decision for me and at first me and my husband had decided to keep the baby but later on i was influenced to change my decision unfortunately and now i regret it everyday and feel sad .can u please give me some insight on what happened to both of my babys soul and if the first one has come back as my 2nd baby and if the 3rd one has forgiven me .

  • Ashley November 29, 2017, 8:26 pm

    Hi sheila is it possible to ask your spirit baby to come back at a certain time.

  • Her Mommy November 30, 2017, 3:48 am

    My son was the age of 3 at this time (my second child) He always had the ability to “play with my cousin” whom passed away in 2012. The same year he was conceived. 3 years later. I became pregnant, my fourth child at this time.

    My 3 year old would tell me, there was a man in our walk in closet at the time. & he was scared. Another time, he was very startled late at night. I asked him, what was the matter? He replied, the kids keep making too much noise. There were kids playing on the side of my bed, according to him. I prayed and prayed for him to not see things anymore. Cus it was getting to him too much. The month of February, I got a visit from my cousin whom passed in 2012. (We were raised together.) He looked amazing and he sat down on the couch and was telling me something. However, I wasn’t able to pick it up. I couldn’t hear anything. He left. My dream was over. Next month in March, I had another dream. A weird dream. I was in a house that wasn’t mine. However, someone grabbed my hand and told me to not open that door. I couldn’t see the face of that person. As hard headed as I am, I open the door. It was a baby nursery. It was green and gray. It was sooo beautiful. I was in love. All of a sudden, dark clouds and rain came into the nursery. I closed the door real fast. I woke up suddenly. 2 days later, I go to my doctors appointment. Just to find out my unborn child didn’t have a heartbeat anymore. I lost my child. After delivering my baby, I came to find out. It was my first daughter.

    I miss my daughter. I cry for her. But she never visits me in my dreams. Why did all these things happen before losing her? Is there a reason? Is my cousin with her?

  • Selina Khan December 8, 2017, 3:05 pm

    Hi Her Mommy,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. There are some spirits that just don’t seem to visit us in our dreams. People have different theories about this, but I don’t believe anyone knows for sure why some spirits come and others don’t. It doesn’t seem to make a difference of how close we were to them when they were alive. Sometimes, we just don’t perceive their visits in our dreams.

    It is possible that you have had connection with her and don’t remember it upon waking. I know that it would bring comfort to you to remember or have a dream about her. Keep asking for it and perhaps it will come. I believe we get what is needed sometimes and not always what we want, but we can always ask.

    Your cousin is likely watching over her or they like hanging out together on the other side.

    You are very in tune and some people have abilities that give them glimpses of the future. These intuitive gifts are another sense, just like your eyesight, or your hearing. Sometimes you will perceive things that are wonderful. It is then that we feel fortunate to have our abilities. But sometimes, we pick up on are shown other things. It may have been a way to prepare you for what was coming.


  • Nana December 26, 2017, 3:26 am

    Hi I just want to say thank you for the beautiful words I lost my baby at 5 weeks to sids then got pregnant right away ( which was a surprise ) to loose him too at 26 weeks because of severe maturity I had preeclampsia now after 5 months I have the urge to have another child but I am scared can’t go through the suffering I wish I can be assured thank you again

  • daniella January 8, 2018, 6:30 pm

    is my unborn child ok? will I ever meet him/her one day?
    why has this happened to.

  • daniella January 8, 2018, 6:34 pm

    also could you tell me if I will have children? or can you see them in my future? I have been trying for so long and having lost one, I am starting to lose hope 🙁

  • Selina Khan January 19, 2018, 7:11 pm

    You are welcome Nana. I’m sorry that you lost your baby. It may take some time to heal before you know whether you want to try again or not. Be gentle with yourself in this time of grief.


  • Selina Khan January 19, 2018, 7:20 pm

    Hi Daniella,

    I am so sorry for your loss. Yes your unborn child is okay. Do not doubt that the light provides love to all who do not make full incarnation. Yes you will be reunited one day. We don’t know why some are able to incarnate and others only experience to a particular point. It is thought that the experience has a purpose for all involved that is for our growth in some way.


  • daniella January 20, 2018, 2:56 am

    thank you for your reply 🙂 I would like to ask if you can see me with children in the late or near future also?
    thanks x

  • MeMe February 6, 2018, 8:45 am

    Hey I just want to say thank you for the article something brought me here and to do research. I had a baby in 2009. I was 19 years old, my baby didn’t make it she died in me at 7 months, the night of her passing away I had a clear dream of a blue spirit on my shoulder, it was a lil boy who whispered my name in my hear about 3 times then went away. I woke up the next day, not really putting much thought into the dream I had, until later in that day. I noticed my baby didn’t move at all that day… Normally she would’ve been bouncing around in my belly she was so active Lol…. so begin worried as to why she havent moved all day, so I asked my family members as to why she havent been moving around, they told me she was sleeping. This was my first time getting pregnant this was first child, so I was very confused and worried about what was going on, I was experiencing very bad side pain that day didn’t think nothing of it because I always had problems with my side…. But one of my family members told me to go to the hospital because I’m pregnant …..so I went to the hospital, doctor’s said they couldn’t get a heartbeat, I had a ultrasound done whole time my baby was head down in my stomach, I ended up having a natural birth, when she came out, she looked like she was sleep with a smirk on her face with red tint lips and very hairy, she looked just like me. I still wonder where her spirit is and will she return. I haven’t had anymore kids after her. I’m 28 now this year 2018 she would’ve been 9…. I just wonder was that her spirit that came to me in boy form? If so why was it a boy? why did he whispered in my ear? I wonder do she loves me and forgive me? I was young and lost didn’t have much support… I wonder why she didn’t make it to full term. I really hope u will respond to me.
    Thanks 😊

  • Selina Khan February 17, 2018, 11:23 am

    Hi MeMe,

    I’m glad that the article was of some help to you. There can be a lot of grief and questions around why things like this happen. From what I understand from Spirit, not every being is meant to experience a full incarnation. In other words, for whatever reason, sometimes a spirit does not need to experience a full birth and life to get what they need from the experience.

    Sometimes that spirit may come through fully into a body at a later time. Sometimes it was just not meant to happen at the time you wanted it. There is a bigger plan at play.

    It is possible for spirit to come through in a different sex than originally planned. While it is possible, I feel this blue spirit was not the same but another. Still connected to you. The child that didn’t incarnate fully is fine and has nothing to forgive you for. So please do not hold this against yourself as there is no need to. There is only a feeling of happiness that I feel from that particular spirit toward you.


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