Psychic Readings – Can I change my destiny?

Ever go for a psychic reading and the person tells you something that you don’t like about your future? As a psychic, I tell people exactly what I get – not what they want to hear. So I often hear from clients, “can I change my destiny?”

Sometimes that means telling you things about your finances, career, investments, relationships, or health that you don’t want to happen.

But can you change your fate? The answer is yes! Here’s why and how.

Your future consists of an infinite number of possible outcomes. Your future is determined by your current thoughts and actions. Where you are now in your life is because of how you reacted to past situations and how you view past experiences.

So when I tune into your future, I’m tuning into the most likely probable future based on your current energy. Change your energy, change your future.

How do you change your energy? It takes three things.

  1. Awareness that there is a problem. In other words, knowing that what you have been doing in the past and you are doing now isn’t creating what you want.
  2. A willingness to change. This isn’t as simple as it seems because it often means giving up control, taking responsibility for our part in creating what we have now, or changing the way we relate to ourselves and other people. Sometimes the benefits we get out of an unhealthy situation or fear of the unknown keeps us stuck there. That’s why many of us say we want something different but we stay where we are.
  3. Change. Altering the way we think about something and the way we behave. It’s like that old adage says – you can’t do the same old thing and expect different results.

So you can change your future. You can heal the past too. And that can help change your present self, which then changes your future.

Some people say to me “it must be karmic”. Karma has a bad rap these days. It’s misunderstood. Karma is not a point system where you need to suffer to be punished for getting too many bad points.

Karma is simply cause and effect. If you want to change your karma, see points 1-2-3 above.

They next time you get a psychic reading, you may want to ask “what do I need to work on to change this possibility” as one of your questions, instead of “can I change my destiny”. Then go out and celebrate the fact that you are the master (or mistress) of your own destiny.

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Selina Khan, Toronto Psychic Medium and Reiki Master
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  • Kunal April 13, 2011, 11:43 pm

    From what I understand about this article is that, we can change our thoughts and try and learn and create a positive karma out of this, take our suffering and see how it developed us rather than destroyed us. Other than that I don’t feel that we can truly change our destiny everything Nostradamus, Edgar Cayce and other seers told us is happening, there seems to be no way of preventing all that was written.

    Is my understanding correct? please email me

  • admin April 15, 2011, 11:32 pm

    Thanks for your comment. I’ll email you as well. Yes you are correct – we can change our thoughts and learn through developing a new self-awareness of how we interact with and create our environment. And while great seers like Nostradamus and Edgar Cayce predicted many events accurately, this is a possible future. Perhaps the words of Edgar Cayce will shed some light on this.

    This excerpt is from one of Edgar Cayce’s talks in 1959 as documented by the Association for Research and Enlightenment.

    “Your entity, your soul, takes on a physical form in this earth – a physical body which is subject to the laws and directing tendencies in all things material. Your body is influenced by the laws of heredity and environment. Planetary conditions have an influence; numerological conditions affect in a certain manner. Indeed all the laws governing matter influence you, in a ratio proportionate to your personal relationship to them. Then how, you may ask, can we control our lives? Are we wholly subject to these various conditions which are predetermined? No! For each of you has a will capable of choosing your path through life. By this I mean you are capable of choosing what you will do with what you have in hand. As you use your ability and your knowledge, day by day, you will be directing the trend of your life. By choosing, you exert your will.”

    I wonder what Edgar Cayce would have thought about quantum physics and how there is an infinite number of possibilities that exist? The one that becomes reality, is the one that is focused on, or in other words, the one that we match our vibrational frequency to.

  • Kunal April 16, 2011, 1:42 am

    Is it also true that all events favourable or unfavourable are all always correct and precise as in we get what we need to help our soul evolve to the next level with karma and other universal laws in place as well, the ultimate level being moksha, salvation, nirvana… , and that all those who hurt us or even help us are simply instrumental in the process of helping us realize our highest goal.

  • Kunal April 16, 2011, 2:04 am

    I forgot to add that “laws of heredity and environment. Planetary conditions have an influence; numerological conditions affect in a certain manner”. isn’t all this chosen by us, I was told that before we are physically born in this world we psychically chart our entire life, we choose our parents thereby our genetic coding is under our control, planetary conditions and numerical influence too.

  • admin April 21, 2011, 6:21 am

    Yes you have it correct – according to current spiritual thinking. We may indeed choose our life’s experiences before we incarnate. These are considered to be chosen by us to expand our growth, or as some say to help us learn our “lessons”. But there is still a free will aspect involved. I think of it as choosing the cards we want in our hand before we incarnate, but then how we play with them is up to us once we are on the physical plane. Planetary conditions, the vibration of numerology, and other changes on the earth such as the earth grid and polarization have an influence on us, but do not control our destinies. Thus an earth sign, such as a Taurus or Virgo, who’s numerology adds up to a 4 year which is stability, structure and fixedness, may be challenged to be flexible with change while continuing to be practical and grounded. The choice of that person, whether to resist and try to hang on to the known or embrace new opportunities is still up to them.

  • madhura October 1, 2013, 8:25 am

    Firstly let me thankyou for changing my thought process as at this point of time iam going through a major set back in my personal as well professional front .But this article has got some kind of positive vibe in me my past mistakes are only going to be as learning experience to me from now on .Basically iam i write by thinking that if you wish to you can chnge your detiny with your thought process hard work and have a positive attitude . your article has cleared a myth about the meaning of karma if i have understood correctly karma is only to remind you about the good and bad its not to put you intoany kind of sufferings .doe it mean that if you want to be in a certain situation just blaming karma can never change your destiny rather work with a positive attitude will surely help you to understand life and its situation in a better way .Once again thankyou for such beautiful article which really shows whats life in a different aspect

  • madhura October 1, 2013, 8:28 am

    i would also like to receive emails from you so that it becomes a driving force for me at the times of test and is there a sight where i can chat with you if i need to ask anything.

  • admin October 1, 2013, 9:10 pm

    Thank you for your kind comments on my blog! I’m happy that the articles have had a positive impact for you. I am not on any chat rooms, but I do wish that my writings continue to bring you good insights.


  • crystal June 16, 2014, 12:59 am

    I am 15 and I was depressed thinking about what a fortune teller had told me. She said I will be pregnant at a young age. I don’t want that to happen. I don’t have a boyfriend and I don’t want my parents be disappointed to me.

    But… thank you and now I learned from you that IT was an only ONE possible future for me out of an INFINITY possibilities. Thank you.

  • admin June 20, 2014, 4:38 am

    Yes Crystal you are right! It is one possibility. We all have much more influence over our paths than we know.

    All the best to you,

  • Lily February 26, 2015, 11:14 am

    I don’t really understand everything I’ve researched on this and I’ve been researching a lot!!! I was not told out loud but it was very much implied that I may commit suicide. This was by a tea leaf reader/psychic. She didn’t come out and say it but I “know” for sure now that is what her reaction was when she said “wth is wrong with you and then grabbed my hand to look at my palm” – she scared me and I never went back but she also told me I was going to have a baby. About 13 years later, I said to my husband of 10 years, look I don’t want to have a baby and that woman keeps telling my mother I’m going to have a baby. We agreed not to get pregnant but then one year later I did. I didn’t believe in abortion and thought I would feel differently, so I denied my feelings. Right after she was born, it was like I was in shock and had a lot of fear. The responsibility of raising a child filled me with a fear that made the world look scary and within two weeks I knew I could not stay but yet even in leaving, which was extremely hard to do, I was very unstable and it didn’t make the world feel any better. The only time I felt a little better was when someone in the family offered to raise her, which did not end up happening. I did get better with the help of someone else (not a psych b/c they even said “we don’t know how to help you” – they couldn’t understand the fear and it was not something medication could fix (sorry I making this long but I can’t really explain why medication wouldn’t fix it). It seemed the only time I got a little relief was if someone else offered to raise her. So I finally after all these years went back to this woman (and yes I do know she works with dark energy as well now) which I didn’t know before. Anyway, she saw suicide again but this time she asked me about it. I told her how distraught I was and she could see I was tormented. I did attempt and somehow this woman knew and called me after I got out of the hospital. Ok so as I mentioned I did get better with the help of an outsider (don’t want to go into details here). Now I did go back to her a few more times since I was no longer afraid. She kept saying “be careful of another pregnancy” – you have a chance of another pregnancy, and the last time I saw her I could clearly see that she saw once again “suicide” – So it is now a few years later and I have pretty much “woken up” to the fact that I have to take care of myself (hard to explain here) as I was living with someone, sharing expenses etc but thought I was taking care of myself overall. Anyway, since I was told I had to move out, the fear became even stronger than when I gave birth to a real baby and now I don’t have any solution. I know suicide is not the solution but yet I can’t stop thinking about it and no I’m not depressed. I’m afraid to go outside, I feel like the world is one big scary place and it is worse than when I gave birth to an actual baby. You see this second time, it’s like I’m the baby (b/c I have to take responsibility for myself) which sounds easy but it’s not b/c this fear is all encompassing and takes over. I’m not insane. Tonight I’m having a good night as I was able to stay living with the person I’m living with although it took my mind a good 10 weeks to even start to feel better, I’m still not 100%. So my question is how did she see this sooo many years ago, like 25 years ago and I never changed my path?? It also shows up in my pictures as well over the years and you can clearly see a big bright death light near me. So all I can think of is “is this my destiny” – “did I do this before in another lifetime” – “is that why it’s so hard to find my way around or out of this situation this time” – I sound crazy when I tell people this b/c they think it should be easy to just go get a place of my own etc and I feel the same way when I feel good (which is only about 1-2 hours per day). Even living with someone now I still have strong thoughts of suicide though I know enough about the afterlife and suicide that it would never be an answer and comes with many consequences…. So (sorry this is long) but my question is “how did she see this?” – is this really something from a previous lifetime or just wrong choices I made in this lifetime? Is it b/c she worked with dark energies? Not around me but since they were around her did I pick up something? I have already gone through all that and was told I did not pick up anything. I just don’t understand how this could be my destiny and I don’t want to die. Before you tell me to talk to someone, you have to realize I will sound crazy talking about a psychic and also no one can understand why I’m so fearful of taking responsibility for my life b/c they couldn’t understand it when my real baby was born. BTW, no I do not have custody of her… I had to leave but she does know who I am and now I can’t leave her or anyone else in my family with the aftermath of S. let alone what will happen to my soul. How did this woman know? There has to be another explanation. Did I really just stay on the same path all those years? I’m not a bad person. I tried really hard to do the right thing but it was like I was split in the middle after her birth and between the fear and the other feelings I had, I needed to leave. Of course, now I love her but I still can’t be a full-time parent and NOW I cannot even take care of myself so to speak. It’s like I have a strange phobia that’s so strong no medication will fix it b/c I can clearly see that now that I’ve been awakened to the fact I need to go out on my own, I felt like I was between two worlds until I was told I could stay living where I’m currently living and that won’t last forever and it only made me feel about 60% better. Please tell me how she could see this so many years ago……………

  • Selina February 27, 2015, 2:38 am

    Hi Lily,

    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. First of all, I’m really sorry to hear that this was your experience with the psychic you saw. Many psychics would not tell someone that they see them taking their own life because it does nothing but instill fear.

    It is an individual choice as a psychic how and if certain information should be revealed. I try to instill hope and make my client feel empowered while still being honest and not sugar coating. Unfortunately, not everyone does this.

    Sometimes telling someone a negative message actually causes the person to focus on it and may cause stress, fear, or a subconscious self-fulfillment effect. Also, it just might not be true or if it is, you may shift and then it is no longer what happens. But in the meantime, the person is in distress.

    My sense is that this woman may have psychic abilities and probably picked up on a sensitivity or vulnerability in you and may have played on that. She may have seen the possibilities of a child. I don’t sense any spirit attachment or negative energy from this psychic to you.

    There are no “right” or “wrong” choices in life. You are here to grow, experience, learn, and co-create with the Divine. You have the power to shift yourself.

    Let’s say that you and the Higher Source (God, the Universe, etc) decide that for your growth this lifetime, there are going to be certain challenges on your path. Some of these things will happen and the circumstances around it may be changeable but it will still happen, and other things will be completely changeable and you may not need to go through it at all. How the external world is seen, and how these challenges are met are dependent on how you evolve, mature, think. What happens on your path is both you manifesting it and also a Divine plan. That is my belief and my understanding of how these things work. I’m not telling you what to believe. I’m sharing what I understand from my path.

    I also believe that no one truly knows when you will leave this life except your spirit and God.

    How much power did you give to this reading? How much are you still giving it? That is what I find concerning and not that the psychic knew things about your future.

    And yes, you are right, I’m going to suggest you find a therapist who will work with you in order to support you through your healing.

    I hope this helps you. Many blessings,

    Why was your path the way it was? There are many reasons why we experience what we do. Everything from manifestation, to soul contracts, to karmic patterns that offer us a chance to heal and grow. We have free-will and yet there is also a Divine Plan for each of us.

  • Mell March 2, 2015, 11:57 am

    I saw a psychic on the weekend. I was shaken up rather with some things she mentioned to me relating to my marriage separation. I can’t imagine how this can change for the better without a lot of people getting hurt.

  • Selina March 3, 2015, 5:06 am

    Hi Mell,

    As I wasn’t in your reading, I don’t know how the messages were conveyed or what this psychic said to you. I would hope that she did your reading in a way that would let you know that these things only may happen (all psychic readings tap into possibilities of the future) and that she gave you spiritual insight into what the lessons or opportunity for growth might be for you and the others involved.

    You can only try your best to be true to yourself and at the same time, hold the space of love for others and let them decide how they are going to react to and meet the challenges of the situation. Right now you may not know or be able to see how things are going to work out. When I am in a similar state, I turn it over to the Universe and ask that if there is a way to make it work out for everyone, that this be done and that whatever happens, I trust that it’s for everyone’s highest good.

    I know that the future can change. Myself, my clients, my colleagues – we have all had experiences with this. I’ll put you in my prayers tonight and send you some positive energy. Have faith.


  • Del March 10, 2016, 7:08 am

    Some people in Asia (India) use fingerprint to give right predictions and family information (names and etc.) as I got to know from internet. Also some books have also published about destiny and fingerprint. I also believe destiny can be changed. As thumb print is permanent, I am feeling pretty nervous about this matter. (I have commented before as well regarding to a different problem)

  • Nicole February 12, 2017, 11:31 am

    I recently saw a good, and well-known psychic regarding my relationship with my ex-boyfriend who broke up with me 3 weeks ago. I asked her what I need to do to help us heal and bring us back together. Rather than answer my question, she went on to tell me that we were supposed to meet as a transition relationship for each other, he was always going to break up with me, and there’s another guy who has a kid and will look at me like I’m his little broken China doll that he can put back together. I was completely appalled by the description of this guy, as I will never date a man with kids, and I immediately lose respect for any guy who looks at me as fragile or a project for them to manage. I was adamant that if I do meet this man, my free will is not going to choose this man. She didn’t offer any other possibilities for when I don’t chose this man, not did she answer my original question – what do I need to do to heal the relationship with the man I am in love with? I’m very hurt and confused by the reading, and feel like I don’t have any choices about my love life, that I’m just going to end up alone.

  • Selina Khan February 16, 2017, 4:30 pm

    Hi Nicole,

    You state that your free will is not going to choose this man. Great! Be the creator of your path! See the reading as a possible outcome and use your power of free will and choice to create something you do want. Readings give you glimpses of what likely to come on your path so you can decide if you want to continue working toward that or change it.

    I don’t know why she didn’t answer your original question or offer other possibilities. It may be her reading style, it may be that she didn’t feel there was a chance to get back together with the man you love and she was trying to give you other possibilities, or maybe that what came through strongest was most important from spirit’s view to share, or maybe that she was distracted from the original question by what was coming through for you and forgot to go back to it. During a reading, it may help to remind your reader of any important questions that you may have that weren’t addressed so that you don’t walk away feeling that your questions were ignored.


  • trust speilberg June 28, 2017, 3:23 am

    mine was that a psychic once told me my girlfriend friend is gonna break up with me while same thing happening to my girlfriend b/c her parents claim a psychic told them that later in future am gonna betrayed her but as for me I know I can change it now through your articles but what about my girlfriend b/c she scared and confused she even claim maybe she should listen to her parents…so how can I help her overcome this thought and the psychic reading for a better future… thanks

  • Selina Khan July 5, 2017, 6:44 pm

    Hi Trust Speilberg,

    Aside from showing her consistent loving kindness, you can’t make her change. She has to decide to change her mind about it all. Fear is a horrible thing to live by. It leads the mind to all sorts of possibilities that may not happen.

    No psychic knows everything and no one is 100% right all the time. I’m sorry that whomever you saw caused so much fear.


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