What happens to suicidal souls?

suicide spirits

Suicide is sometimes perceived as the only way out by people who are very depressed or coping with extreme illness or pain. Family and friends may be left with unanswered questions – why did this person commit suicide? Are they in a good place now? What happens to suicidal souls? Can their spirit find peace?

Most major religions see suicide as a sin. But what is left of the soul afterward? Does it wander the earth plane forever lost? Does it work out its issues in purgatory before being allowed to move on? How is the soul affected by suicide?

Is it like Albert Brooks’ movie Defending Your Life where you get a life review before getting your judgment? While I don’t have all the answers, I can tell you about the spirits I have connected with from my own experience as a Medium.

About five years ago, a girlfriend of mine took her own life. She was bipolar, struggling with recent memories that had surfaced regarding sexual abuse, and had chosen to isolate herself from her family.

She lived in an apartment that overlooked the bus stop where I caught the bus to work. It was shortly after her death – a few weeks maybe. I remember looking up at her place and wondered to myself where her spirit was. It started me wondering what happens to suicidal souls.

Then, suddenly, I heard very clearly in my one ear – “I’m right here”. But of course, no one was standing there. It was her spirit speaking to me.

Later I tried to connect with her to see if she needed help. She hadn’t crossed into the light yet. In fact, she was in this weird in-between place. I say weird because it was like she was between two walls of energy.

I could see her. I could talk to her. And at the same time, she was in a different type of energy or in a different dimension of some sort. She told me that there were some things she had to finish before she could move on.

There were people she needed to visit and have some sort of closure with. One was her father, the other was her brother. When she was alive, she felt they didn’t believe her. Whatever it was she needed to do was not shared with me.

I didn’t connect with her again for a few months. And then, she came by briefly. She was no longer in the “in-between” place. She had crossed fully into the light. Her energy had shifted as well and she felt lighter. So after this experience, I believe that souls who have committed suicide can certainly find peace in the afterlife.

When I connect to those spirits of people who committed suicide, it doesn’t seem to matter what religious background they came from. The spirit comes through, sometimes saying they are sorry, sometimes saying they are much happier now.

Some of them tell us about how they still had to work on themselves. It seems that our spiritual progression does not stop when we are no longer incarnate. That goes for everyone, not just suicides.

Some of them cross into the light right away. Some of them linger for a while. But none of them are condemned or damned. Pure love knows no judgment. There is only acceptance.

NOTE: My intention for writing this blog article is to help those who have lost someone to suicide to better understand what the spirit may have experienced in crossing over. This is not a forum for those having suicidal thoughts. If you are suicidal, please contact your nearest emergency department or mental health professional immediately.

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Selina Khan, Toronto Psychic Medium and Reiki Master
About the Author: Selina Khan

I'm a Psychic Medium and Reiki Master serving Toronto, Oakville, and worldwide. I help spiritual seekers & open-minded people get clarity, find meaning, and develop their own intuitive abilities so they can live up to their true spiritual potential and life purpose.

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  • steph June 2, 2011, 9:18 pm

    hi selina, thanks for sharing your story. 🙂
    thanks so much for this article as well. it is very comforting to know this info b/c i too have lost a dear friend.
    “pure love knows no judgment. there is only acceptance.” – beautiful words. 🙂

    looking forward to our next meeting!

  • leisha June 3, 2011, 5:33 am

    That sounds right to me; feels accurate. I always had problems with the idea that spirit would condemn us for ending our present situation if it became unbearable. To each their own path and decisions is my view. It seems only right that growth continues as we are seeking the light for the most part; even if that includes seeking to go “ahead of our time”.

  • Donna Merrill June 4, 2011, 8:09 am

    Hi Selina, I was touched by your story because I’ve experienced this as well. Thanks for sharing your story.
    Donna Merrill

  • C. Garcia December 1, 2011, 5:24 am

    Can you please send me an email with your email. I want to tell you my story and let me know what to do.

  • admin December 2, 2011, 11:50 pm
  • Jia August 6, 2012, 2:38 pm

    Thanks for sharing above story, as my first husband committed suicide by hanging, i still love him and miss him alot, Hope he is fine

  • Kunal September 22, 2012, 10:15 pm

    Is it true that those who do take their own lives still have to come down to earth to face the exact same thing for another 7 lives?

  • admin September 28, 2012, 12:10 am

    I haven’t heard that one before! I don’t believe it is true as the spirits who have come through who had taken their lives do not indicate that.

  • Ronaldo December 24, 2012, 5:40 am

    I find it so hard to believe that a person who commits suicide is yet again to endure untold suffering, of which I read about. This is something not done lightly, and anyone who chooses this must be in a incredibly unfortunate state of mind. It may not be the best solution for solving life’s difficulties, but if that is what the victim feels, and even more so, if contemplating for a long time, and realizing implications once completed, after much introspection, who are we to say they were wrong?

    For some this life is just too much. They’ve had it, and have decided it’s time to check out. Of course there will be some serious issues to deal with, but that is how the spirit evolves, either here, or there. There are lessons to learn, and this is a big one. The pain of those left behind etc. The suicider will feel all that many times over. This is the worst part I think. But the act is only one in a life that may have brought good to many.

  • susmita February 2, 2013, 10:47 pm

    Thanks for this story now i am a bit relieved because recently i lost my friend and truly speaking i had become a little restless thinking about her.

  • Luxia July 23, 2013, 3:44 pm

    Sad story but thank you for sharing story. 90% of people who kill themselves are mentally ill, Suicide isn’t a
    random decision acted on impulse. Most
    Suicidal people are usually that way for a
    VERY long time. Something may trigger the
    decision to finally do it…and get it the heck
    over with, but all in all the generel feeling
    that life is awful and you are simply sick
    and tired of living can go on for a while. As
    for the friends and family that everybody is
    supposed to take into Consideration of
    hurting, much of the time loved ones are
    busy and wrapped up within they’re own
    lives and problems. And have no real
    understanding, concern or patience for
    you…or why you feel you’re life is oh so
    Terrible. Especially when you have all of
    the things that Society insist and tells you
    are supposed to make you happy. Friends
    only like you the best when you’re
    smiling…then when you kill yourself they
    act surprised, shocked, heartbroken and
    put upon. Saying how they didn’t see it
    coming or any of the warning signs, but
    what an amazingly beautiful individual you
    were who they had all loved all along and
    Blah, Blah, Blah di da. Because when
    you’re Suicidal that’s not the case. Most of
    the red flags before a Suicide go
    completely ignored. And if they cared so
    much why didn’t they notice or try to help?
    PERIOD! Not just the ones who take
    matters into they’re own hands. People
    don’t cut out the time for other people’s
    pain. Nope. They’re too busy and caught
    up in they’re own. So all of us can feel
    really alone at times. Add depression and
    despair into the pot…mix it all together and you might just
    make yourself the perfect recipe for a
    Suicide! If you don’t understand….just shut
    up, leave you’re condolences and move on.
    Otherwise don’t judge another person for
    something you haven’t experienced or
    been through.

  • Joel fitzsimmons August 8, 2013, 7:48 am

    You’ll never know how someone else feels not depression but something that triggers life is just not worth it like someone telling you I don’t want to be seen with you because you look gay even though they are your “best friend”or you loose your job because your friend who always played tricks on you reported you for doing the same

  • sade September 20, 2013, 11:03 pm

    I have been thinking about this for awhile and reading your article brings me a sense if peace. Suicide is not an easy decision. Its one that takes so much thought. I hope that reading your article brings others peace of mind like it has given me.

  • Greg November 9, 2013, 7:09 am

    I can understand someone wanting to end their life if they are suffering in constant physical pain, chronically ill, all alone in the world, or homeless without any family.
    I don’t care how many brownie points you get from St Peter at The Pearly Gates.
    Why stick around for that??
    What I can’t understand are these young kids who are leaving us way too soon.
    They have their whole life in front of them with so much yet to contribute.
    It makes no sense to me at all.

  • Kris Key July 29, 2014, 3:55 am

    I like your ideas and agree. If someone commits suicide, they are in unbearable pain and misery. (Whether mentally or physically)

  • Kris Key July 29, 2014, 3:57 am

    I agree 100% with your ideas. People are too involved with themselves to take the time to notice someone who is suffering.

  • Selina July 29, 2014, 4:23 am

    Hi Kris,

    Thanks for your comments. Sometimes the person who is depressed hides their depression or others may not realize how serious the problem is, but that doesn’t mean that people don’t care. Many of my clients who have lost someone through suicide feel guilt wondering if they could have done something to stop it, if only they had known how serious it was or what to do. If a person starts to have suicidal thoughts or is very depressed, they need professional support to get through it. It’s difficult to navigate these kinds of emotions on one’s own.

    Many kind blessings,

  • Ash August 12, 2014, 6:01 pm

    Personally, I have nothing left to live for. I’m in pain all if the time. I have nothing. My husband is emotionally and physically abusive. Constantly sleeping with women and texting them in front of me. Kicking me out of the house for the weekend to have sex with some smart, beautiful, and younger woman. He tells me how awful I am, he screams at me whenever I cry. He gets pissed off that I don’t want threesomes, and that I just want him (We used to have one every week with a different woman). My life is hell. I could have been the perfect wife for someone, giving endless love and care. I ruined my life by marrying a man that no one agreed I should marry. I was 18 and stupid, now I’m 24 and crying everyday. I tried to make him happy but I will never be enough no matter what I do or change. The only thing stopping me from suicide is the pain my family will endure. Will they be okay? I need to go away.

    Marriage: 6 years
    Age: 24
    Husband: 33

  • Selina August 12, 2014, 9:46 pm

    Hi Ash,

    Please seek immediate help from a psychotherapist or other mental health professional. Suicide is NOT an answer to your problems. There is always another way to cope and improve your life circumstances. I can tell you that almost every single person who comes for a mediumship reading because they have a loved one who committed suicide is in great emotional pain, often feeling guilty that they could not help them. Go get help now to get out of your mental anguish and life circumstances.

    With kindest respect and blessings,

  • Jackie September 28, 2014, 3:03 pm

    Hey Ash,
    Please leave that man! You don’t deserve to die, you deserve a new life! I’m sure you have a friend who would let you crash on their couch, or family that will give you a place to stay until you get on your feet. Do not kill yourself over that loser. You’re only 24, you have time to make different choices and start fresh. Good luck and keep us posted

  • Annie Walters October 8, 2014, 3:44 pm

    Hi! This article has been very helpful especially to me now. I just learned of a close friend’s passing a few days ago and it happened last year. I’ve been crying for days now because I cannot imagine he could do it. It was a tragic way of dying since it’s a murder-suicide. I really, really hope and pray that his soul is okay. I’ve lighted a candle and offered a prayer for him. In this case, where do you think is his soul right now?

    Thank you in advance for the answer.


  • Kay May 31, 2015, 2:23 pm

    Exactly 3weeks ago, my gf commited suicide. She has bipolar as well. I’ve gotta say its really depressing the moment i received the news from her sibling.. And its not a one day thing to get over. Sometimes when i’m alone i always try my luck to talk to her and always waiting to feel something like her presences.. And few times theres moth flying to my hand and etc makes me think that she is really around me.
    I wish she had a better choice but she still leaves in the end without leaving any last word to anybody. I wonder if she really feels happier now, and i always wonder if she is right beside me but just that i couldn’t see her.

    But she made me learned to treasure my life more, and keep on keeping on no matter whats coming in my way.
    I really miss her, you know sometimes i’ve gotta tell myself to accept what is gone but another part of me is still living in disbelief. Everywhere i’ve been, i always see our shadows and our beautiful memories keep wandering in my mind. A 3years relationship and someone planned with me for our future and promised to be with each other till the end has come to this end. I’ve been telling her to wait for me, when the times come i would reunite with her but oh lord i really don’t know how am i gonna continue like this. Its like suddenly shes gone, i’m alone. No plans..
    i’m sorry if my sharing is little messed up but its really depressing.

    People, please please if you have any friends has sucidal thoughts and bipolar.. Please help them, the thing they need the most is support from family and true friends.
    I’ve lost someone i loved so much, someone that was gonna be my financee and wife. And it really hurts and i can’t explain how it feels exactly.

    Let us treasure and love what we have now. Before everything is too late. My biggest regret in life is to not being able to be with her during her darkest moment.

    I really miss you, rest in peace babygirl. You will always live in my heart. I am always waiting to see you in my dream because thats the only way for me to feel you close to me again.

  • Besu August 19, 2015, 12:13 pm

    Thank you for posting this. While I have my doubts about psychic connection I was really touched by your girlfriend’s comment about finding closure with relatives who didn’t believe in her. For me, my mother and sister (those who I am closest to- actually I suppose I’m spiritually closest to other depressives and drug addicts who actually understand me- but on a a sane, family history level) seem to understand my situation so poorly that it causes me extreme pain. I have to be quiet in my suicidal urges, especially with my mother, who is older and very anxious, and it’s difficult to give them the true story and be believed without causing extreme pain and desperate worry. They don’t believe in me and view me as a lost cause, which cause a deep desperation in me. While my suicidal urges are the product of depression, their lack of faith and understanding causes me endless grief. Your message gives me courage to seek closure with them without ending my life- if not now, when I’m stronger.

  • Selina Khan August 27, 2015, 11:32 am

    Thank you Besu for sharing your experiences with us. Seems you have more strength than you give yourself credit for. I know that your courage will also touch others that read your comment, so thank you again for sharing your insights.

    Many blessings,

  • Layla hammam November 11, 2015, 7:44 pm

    My grandson Anton committed suicide on the 15/12/1212. He returned home to london from Scotland on the 5th/12/1212.His father buried and i did not go. I still donot understand. He had Ms in his right hand. Last week i went to his grave a few miles away. He had no head stone and his graves was not cared for. I put a wooden cross and planted some bulbs. I still can not move onand i think of my gradson. Thks layla

  • jay November 13, 2015, 9:09 am

    Hi Ashi
    The Bible in John 10vs10 says that “….the ththief comes to steal, kill and destroy. But I have come that they might have life in abundance”. The thief is the devil. He wants to destroy your life, but refuse that. God wants you to have an abundant life. Please don’t kill yourself. There is more to life than the abusive husband. God loves you. That sad situation you are in will not be forever. God will make a way for you. Hang on there. Please find a bible believing church, fellowship with other Christians, get good company around yourself, surround yourself with positive people. God will help you.

  • Selina Khan November 13, 2015, 3:50 pm

    Hi Layla,

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandson. The cross and bulbs you placed at the grave honours the memory of your grandson. Although his spirit is not there and has moved on, I know that everything is seen and acknowledged from the Other Side and when they come to visit us in spirit. Even those who take their own lives find peace. It is most hard on those of us left behind to try to find closure and move on. This does take time.

    Blessings to You,


  • ashi sharma December 11, 2015, 2:57 am

    I also wants to know about some one I losted..

  • Sad Girl April 19, 2016, 2:44 am

    I miss my mom so much. She did not kill herself- but I want to see her so bad. I can’t wait till I’m out of this miserable place. Will I see her again?!?

  • Selina Khan April 21, 2016, 3:00 pm

    Hi Sad Girl,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your mom passing. Although you cannot perceive her right now, know that she is around and sees and hears you. You can learn to perceive her in spirit with patience, practice and guidance from either a good book on mediumship or with a teacher. We all are one – our minds get in the way of realizing that however our hearts never forget.


  • Irving April 23, 2016, 10:19 pm

    It is very rough and hard when your own family is not a family to you, I am going through this right now I have thought about it myself I have been in so much pain for quite a many years and I have seen counselors and medical help and therapists. I see how some look at you in disbelief, or just plain do not understand you at all, I love GOD I talk to GOD always but I am being put through so much hell and constant torment. I am thinking about it all always….At the moment I just am not sure and don’t know what will happen.

  • Chris April 28, 2016, 10:54 pm

    For those suffering deep depression, suicide often seems the only way to escape inner anguish. As someone who has experienced major depression in response to incest and then abandonment from the family for daring to speak out, it may help to know that once the pain shifts, an amazing sense of peace, calm, connection and clarity develops. The pain feels like a blow torch on the brain. Who wouldn’t prefer to die than process this level of anguish? Sit. Breathe. Wait. Endure. The flipside of inner serenity and oceanic love after you process inner pain is profound. Too many people are afraid to process inner pain and run from those who are suffering grievously. Maybe it is time to accept that life brings joy and anguish and stop demanding that everybody must put on a happy Nazi grin rather than share their real feelings so there is less shame in requesting help or comforting those who are depressed.

  • Selina Khan May 2, 2016, 6:31 pm

    Hi Irving,

    I’m so sorry that this is what you have been experiencing. It is possible to work through this with the help of a therapist or counsellor. Please read Chris’ comment. It is possible to find joy in life – sometimes we need help from others to get through it and it can take time.

    Bless you,


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