How to Deal with Nightmares

how to deal with nightmares

We’ve all had nightmares. Those horrible dreams where we are being chased, killed, or watch suffering. We wake up from these nightmares with our hearts pounding in our mouths, sweat drenching our bodies and feeling great unease. And what’s worse – many of us do not know how to deal with nightmares.

Where do these nightmares come from? Are there different types and how do you deal with them? What is the meaning of these dreams? I’m going to tell you of two different sources of nightmares and some techniques you can try. Hopefully, this will help you sleep easier.

I see nightmares as falling into two categories. The first is fear or trauma based. The second is an external disturbance by an energetic force.

Let’s talk about nightmares that stem from fear.

When there is something that has traumatized us or we have a particular fear it can come out in our dream state. Sometimes it just needs to be released and reflects where you are on your journey of self-discovery and healing. In this case, you may have a nightmare once or twice and that’s it. It can be helpful here to interpret your dream to learn more from it.

Then there are reoccurring nightmares. This happens when there is a deeper emotional fear or trauma that cannot work itself out in a short time frame. Sometimes when you make a shift emotionally on the conscious level, there may be a slight change in what happens in the nightmare.

For example, for many years when I was young, I had a dream where a car would roll back and forth moving sideways and flatten my mom into a flat disk just like on the cartoons. In my dream, I was a child and after I saw this I would run to a basement window at a house and open it to hide within.

This went on for months at different intervals. Now when I look back at this dream as an adult, I understand that it was fear based and that my subconscious was reflecting my experience of losing my mother as a young girl.

The car rolling back and forth in a way in it can’t in real life represented something that I couldn’t foresee – something that was outside of my expectations. Having this car roll over and flatten my mother represented my own feelings at the time – my emotions were flat and I felt powerless.

In the dream I tried to hide in the basement. I tried to hide my emotions and fears taking them deep underground – in the subconscious or “basement” of the mind. No wonder it all came out in my dreams.

If I had been more mature in my understanding, I would have realized that this nightmare was just reflecting to me all the buried feelings around my mother’s death.

I could have chosen to write, paint, move my body, talk to my fears, or any other number of things that would have helped me to get in touch with those emotions and fears, see them for what they were, release them, and then find peace.

Eventually that dream did go away. Another took its place which reflected the next stage of grief for me. And eventually, that one went away too.

The other type of nightmare is one that I believe to come about from an external source. I have had a few of those in my lifetime and usually these are not recurring dreams.

What I mean by this is that there may be a lower vibrational spirit or energy which influences the content of your dream. This is not as common.

Let me give you an example so you understand. When I was starting to open up more to my abilities and didn’t really believe in the strength of my own spirit or know much about psychic protection, I had a horrible dream.

It may not seem like it from the content, but the feeling that I got with it was so horrific. All I could see in my dream was this green square that kept growing larger and larger. As it did so, I felt more anxiety and terror. I felt that it would suffocate and smother me.

I woke up by pulling myself out of the dream and found myself half way outside of my bed. It felt like half of my soul had been ripped off. I was completely unbalanced energetically and quite panicked.

Looking back, I think this was an outside entity influencing my dream state. It felt very different energetically than the other nightmares triggered by my mother’s death. There were also other things happening around that same time that required me to learn and practice good energetic protection techniques.

Here are a few things you can do if you think there is an external energy influencing your dreams.

1. Clear your house energetically or get someone in who knows what they are doing to do it for you (smudge it with white sage, etc). If there is a spirit there, you’ll have to have someone cross it or get it to leave to somewhere non-harmful for you or it.

2. Put a small dish of sea salt under your bed. This will help to absorb negative energy that may be in your bedroom, around your bed. If you’ve cleared your house, that may be enough. You can try the salt under the bed first if you want. Remember to throw it out and replace it every week. I used to put a circle of salt around the bed, but that got messy.

3. Pray for protection before sleeping. Ask Archangel Michael, Your Spirit Guides, and all Spirits of Love and Light who would like to come and protect your sleep from lower vibrational influences.

4. Imagine a white light bubble around you, your house and property, before you fall asleep.

I had a girlfriend whose son was having nightmares. I told her to teach him to ask Archangel Michael to protect him in his sleep. When he started to do that, his nightmares disappeared.

I hope this gives you some tools to work with the disturbing dreams that sometimes arise. You can use one or all of them if need be. There is a purpose to our dreams and when we learn to work with them in the way we need to, we can heal and empower ourselves.

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Selina Khan, Toronto Psychic Medium and Reiki Master
About the Author: Selina Khan

I'm a Psychic Medium and Reiki Master serving Toronto, Oakville, and worldwide. I help spiritual seekers & open-minded people get clarity, find meaning, and develop their own intuitive abilities so they can live up to their true spiritual potential and life purpose.

Looking for some help in your spiritual development? Selina offers Intuition and Spiritual Development Workshops, as well as one-on-one Spiritual Mentoring.

  • Bob Renaud March 12, 2017, 12:26 pm

    Thanks for your great article. I was treated many years ago by a Lady named Rose in the K W area called Paradise Lake . I now have a friend who is having similar nightmares he is 80 years old in Windsor ON. Have you heard of this lady as like you she would be called all over the world, And or would you be interested in helping him?

  • Selina Khan March 16, 2017, 2:41 pm

    Hi Bob,

    Thanks for your comment and inquiry. If your friend would like to come for a healing or get a distant healing done, I’ll see if I can help him. Sometimes nightmares are the subconscious mind working things out and sometimes there may be other energetic reasons. You can contact me to set it up if he’s interested.


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